JohnChops
Master Don Juan
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you work so hard on something, study so hard for something, put your all into whatever you're doing only to get mediocre results?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Most people are fooled into believing hard work always bares fruit. The key to success is working SMART. We all get opportunities in life but not all of us know what to do with them.JohnChops said:you work so hard on something, study so hard for something, put your all into whatever you're doing only to get mediocre results?
I can sleep easy if that's the way it went down.JohnChops said:you work so hard on something, study so hard for something, put your all into whatever you're doing only to get mediocre results?
I was never really book smart and have been really bad at math and english. I never studied or read books until during and post college. I remember i would study so hard for tests in college and fail them or get horrible grades. I would also spend all night writing papers and also got horrible grades. What can you really expect though? putting a few hours of studying or a few weeks, when others before you have been studying their whole lives and then also put in the same amount of studying you did before a test. Obviously, you're going to be at a disadvantage.JohnChops said:you work so hard on something, study so hard for something, put your all into whatever you're doing only to get mediocre results?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
No.JohnChops said:you work so hard on something, study so hard for something, put your all into whatever you're doing only to get mediocre results?
i agree with this post alsoPlayHer Man said:Most people are fooled into believing hard work always bares fruit. The key to success is working SMART. We all get opportunities in life but not all of us know what to do with them.
Read "The tale of the man who was too lazy to fail". Great ideas often come out of laziness. We find shortcuts to save time and energy. This is working "smart".
Regarding the Tale of the Man Who Was Too Lazy to Fail : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Time_Enough_for_Love#The_Tale_of_the_Man_Who_Was_Too_Lazy_to_Fail
It is an interesting and useful story that illustrates several aspects of human nature that we should all be aware of.
First, is the tendency of people to do the same things over and over again without questioning why they are doing them.
Second, it shows how seeing things from different angles is vitally important if you really want to succeed in life. Many folks like to "follow the herd", convinced that there is safety in numbers.
Third, while blinding ambition is not necessarily a bad thing, many people who are successful become so not through trickery, deception, and sharp practice, but rather through lack of ambition and the use of innovation in the place of hard work. The people who desperately climb the corporate ladder - willing to stab a co-worker in the back at a moment's notice - rarely really "succeed" in life, either on a financial or personal level