JohnChops
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you work so hard on something, study so hard for something, put your all into whatever you're doing only to get mediocre results?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Most people are fooled into believing hard work always bares fruit. The key to success is working SMART. We all get opportunities in life but not all of us know what to do with them.JohnChops said:you work so hard on something, study so hard for something, put your all into whatever you're doing only to get mediocre results?
I can sleep easy if that's the way it went down.JohnChops said:you work so hard on something, study so hard for something, put your all into whatever you're doing only to get mediocre results?
I was never really book smart and have been really bad at math and english. I never studied or read books until during and post college. I remember i would study so hard for tests in college and fail them or get horrible grades. I would also spend all night writing papers and also got horrible grades. What can you really expect though? putting a few hours of studying or a few weeks, when others before you have been studying their whole lives and then also put in the same amount of studying you did before a test. Obviously, you're going to be at a disadvantage.JohnChops said:you work so hard on something, study so hard for something, put your all into whatever you're doing only to get mediocre results?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
No.JohnChops said:you work so hard on something, study so hard for something, put your all into whatever you're doing only to get mediocre results?
i agree with this post alsoPlayHer Man said:Most people are fooled into believing hard work always bares fruit. The key to success is working SMART. We all get opportunities in life but not all of us know what to do with them.
Read "The tale of the man who was too lazy to fail". Great ideas often come out of laziness. We find shortcuts to save time and energy. This is working "smart".
Regarding the Tale of the Man Who Was Too Lazy to Fail : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Time_Enough_for_Love#The_Tale_of_the_Man_Who_Was_Too_Lazy_to_Fail
It is an interesting and useful story that illustrates several aspects of human nature that we should all be aware of.
First, is the tendency of people to do the same things over and over again without questioning why they are doing them.
Second, it shows how seeing things from different angles is vitally important if you really want to succeed in life. Many folks like to "follow the herd", convinced that there is safety in numbers.
Third, while blinding ambition is not necessarily a bad thing, many people who are successful become so not through trickery, deception, and sharp practice, but rather through lack of ambition and the use of innovation in the place of hard work. The people who desperately climb the corporate ladder - willing to stab a co-worker in the back at a moment's notice - rarely really "succeed" in life, either on a financial or personal level