JohnChops
Master Don Juan
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you work so hard on something, study so hard for something, put your all into whatever you're doing only to get mediocre results?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Most people are fooled into believing hard work always bares fruit. The key to success is working SMART. We all get opportunities in life but not all of us know what to do with them.JohnChops said:you work so hard on something, study so hard for something, put your all into whatever you're doing only to get mediocre results?
I can sleep easy if that's the way it went down.JohnChops said:you work so hard on something, study so hard for something, put your all into whatever you're doing only to get mediocre results?
I was never really book smart and have been really bad at math and english. I never studied or read books until during and post college. I remember i would study so hard for tests in college and fail them or get horrible grades. I would also spend all night writing papers and also got horrible grades. What can you really expect though? putting a few hours of studying or a few weeks, when others before you have been studying their whole lives and then also put in the same amount of studying you did before a test. Obviously, you're going to be at a disadvantage.JohnChops said:you work so hard on something, study so hard for something, put your all into whatever you're doing only to get mediocre results?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
No.JohnChops said:you work so hard on something, study so hard for something, put your all into whatever you're doing only to get mediocre results?
i agree with this post alsoPlayHer Man said:Most people are fooled into believing hard work always bares fruit. The key to success is working SMART. We all get opportunities in life but not all of us know what to do with them.
Read "The tale of the man who was too lazy to fail". Great ideas often come out of laziness. We find shortcuts to save time and energy. This is working "smart".
Regarding the Tale of the Man Who Was Too Lazy to Fail : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Time_Enough_for_Love#The_Tale_of_the_Man_Who_Was_Too_Lazy_to_Fail
It is an interesting and useful story that illustrates several aspects of human nature that we should all be aware of.
First, is the tendency of people to do the same things over and over again without questioning why they are doing them.
Second, it shows how seeing things from different angles is vitally important if you really want to succeed in life. Many folks like to "follow the herd", convinced that there is safety in numbers.
Third, while blinding ambition is not necessarily a bad thing, many people who are successful become so not through trickery, deception, and sharp practice, but rather through lack of ambition and the use of innovation in the place of hard work. The people who desperately climb the corporate ladder - willing to stab a co-worker in the back at a moment's notice - rarely really "succeed" in life, either on a financial or personal level