"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The Bartender

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In response to questions, or in basically any situation you find yourself in, don't say these words:

"I don't know".

Those three words, no matter the situation, lower your status. This may give another person the opportunity to become Alpha of the group with thier response. Saying "I dont know" in a situation where you're attempting to pick up a girl may lead to a rejection because she'll view you as either not confident enough to say what you really want to say or stupid because you havent thought about what you "dont know".

My advice: if you really "dont know". State facts and jump around the actual opinionated response. They'll (whoever asked) will counter with thier opinion and some more facts. Now you have enough to form your own view.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Good point. Thanks for the tip.
 

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If you actually have some kind of political debate or state opinions climate then you have a bad environment for picking up chicks.

And if you worry about what the girl may think about you if you do not know what to think about something then you just try to prove yourself to her. I mean, if she is somewhat interested, that little thing wont **** up the game.

Say "Tell me more and I'll say what I think about it" or sim.
 

The Bartender

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Originally posted by Lifeforce
If you actually have some kind of political debate or state opinions climate then you have a bad environment for picking up chicks.
I'm not just talking about debates. I mean anything. Example, I'm a bartender. A lot of times women will come up during the night and say "What's a good shot?". Now $hit, I know an endless amount of drinks. But if I said, "I dont know, what do you like?" They'd think less of me. So usually I say "Do you like candy?".....(their response) " Yeah me too". And I make one hell of a shot. Much better than "I dont know, what do you like" This is just an example I'm sure not everyone is in my shoes here.
 

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For sure. This is a good tip. Sometimes when I hear other people talk and a female asks a guy a question he'll answer kind of strangely like

Guy: I don't know, sometimes I like to go fishing

Or whatevers.

Instead he could have just came out and said

Guy: Sometimes I like to go fishing.

Leaving the "I don't know" out makes everything you say seem more confident. Now with questions, saying "I don't know" sometimes even kills the conversation. Never say it. Let her know there's nothing you can't handle of it has to be that way, but never tell her that you don't know something.

Good tip.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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