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In my experience, getting involved with women at work is a gamble, if things don't go well then you're going to make your work environment a lot worse, avoid crazy women. I'd say it's more OK to date people you don't work with directly, but if things do go south you can expect your personal business to be vented at work. Worst case scenario, you can get fired.

I met my current gf at work, but she is just as privacy focused as I am. No one at our work knew that we were dating for a long time.

There are also some work environments that are fvck-fests. MySpace was one such place back in the day.
 

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I date women from work. Been doing it for years and know a **** load of people who met their significant other at work. Just gotta choose carefully and hopefully you both can be adults if it doesn't work out.
What type of work do you do?
 

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If you ask out a woman at work and she says no that's not sexual harassment. If you ask a second time after she already said "no" than she has a case against you.
A guy could then say "A woman's perogative is to change her mind." Might get him out of a first time jam with HR.
 

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Still not worth it. Wait until you get some type of sexual harassment claim that follows you the rest of your life for employment purposes. I am amazed in this day in age how desperate some people are that they would run this risk. But I digress.
This is called thinking with your head and not your d**k.

Nothing else to see here, this has been discussed to death. Move on @oc16.


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Part-time gig sure. Just don’t do it on the job that pays the rent/mortgage.

Also, you can get phone numbers on your way out. Before I left my last job I made sure to get 3 phone numbers. Got em right after my 2 week notice.
Service sector McJobs are usually ideal for dating your co-workers. If you're working in a retail store or restaurant/bar, that's one of the perks of that occupation. Tenures are generally short there so it's common in that environment for co-workers to date and have sex. People who work in gyms tend to have sex with each other.

White collar, office work is where the rules are different. It's not advisable to do so. I'll detail that more below, but the only time in white collar work where you can find dates within your own organization is on the way if you've resigned. If you've gotten terminated, your market value will be so low that the women won't date you. If she has put in her 2 weeks or has gotten terminated, you can get her number/set up a date with her. It's easy in a resignation situation for the woman than a termination because you might not see the terminated woman before she is escorted off premises.

The point isn't that you CAN'T get sex in these places. You can. The point is that the risk greatly outweighs any potential reward. Also, you lose the chance to have these chicks become excellent social proof for you. If you have good looking women at work, DO still build rapport with them. But either wait until they leave the job or have them introduce you to other women they know.

Experience is the best teacher for some. You may find out the hard way why having a romantic relationship in the workplace is not a good thing.
Since women do not work much in blue collar roles, white collar office work is where men and women often work together. White collar has its own set of rules.

First off, in white collar, there is often an Human Resources Department. HR is typically staffed by women who have a SJW/careerist/feminist bent. The HR Associate/HR Manager is the enemy of the male employee. If accused of anything by a woman, HR takes the woman's side first. That's a treacherous element for men.

If you manage to avoid the wrath of HR, you must deal with the fact that romantic interactions and relationships are transient. They are often more transient than job durations. Imagine how much it stinks to have to see a female co-worker daily who rejected you for a date. Imagine how bad it is to see female co-worker daily that you had 1-2 month fling with that ended with hurt feelings. Imagine having a co-worker who is your ex-girlfriend of 1 year. You don't want to deal with that. It will often lead you to having to interview for another job. White collar interviewing is not easy.

One tactic that men can use in white collar settings is to date women who work for other companies within the same building. This only works if you work in a larger office building with multiple companies. I got some dates using this method because I had the fortune of working in a few different office buildings with multiple companies. That way, if things go bad, your job is not that risk. You might have to see the person every so often in the building, but that's manageable.

With the pandemic, a lot of white collar work is shifting partially or fully to work at home. Work at home is good for not creating awkward romance interactions.
 

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When all is said & done, I’ve had three great relationships from work. And I’m still friends with them, even though we’ve moved on.
 

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Work Travel has been a godsend in meeting women away from my daily circle. I've created an environment that I don't want to throw an emotional wrench into. If there are women at work attracted to something then some other woman will be also. Women at work are the "scout team", but they don't know it.
 

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Service sector McJobs are usually ideal for dating your co-workers. If you're working in a retail store or restaurant/bar, that's one of the perks of that occupation. Tenures are generally short there so it's common in that environment for co-workers to date and have sex. People who work in gyms tend to have sex with each other.

White collar, office work is where the rules are different. It's not advisable to do so. I'll detail that more below, but the only time in white collar work where you can find dates within your own organization is on the way if you've resigned. If you've gotten terminated, your market value will be so low that the women won't date you. If she has put in her 2 weeks or has gotten terminated, you can get her number/set up a date with her. It's easy in a resignation situation for the woman than a termination because you might not see the terminated woman before she is escorted off premises.



Since women do not work much in blue collar roles, white collar office work is where men and women often work together. White collar has its own set of rules.

First off, in white collar, there is often an Human Resources Department. HR is typically staffed by women who have a SJW/careerist/feminist bent. The HR Associate/HR Manager is the enemy of the male employee. If accused of anything by a woman, HR takes the woman's side first. That's a treacherous element for men.

If you manage to avoid the wrath of HR, you must deal with the fact that romantic interactions and relationships are transient. They are often more transient than job durations. Imagine how much it stinks to have to see a female co-worker daily who rejected you for a date. Imagine how bad it is to see female co-worker daily that you had 1-2 month fling with that ended with hurt feelings. Imagine having a co-worker who is your ex-girlfriend of 1 year. You don't want to deal with that. It will often lead you to having to interview for another job. White collar interviewing is not easy.

One tactic that men can use in white collar settings is to date women who work for other companies within the same building. This only works if you work in a larger office building with multiple companies. I got some dates using this method because I had the fortune of working in a few different office buildings with multiple companies. That way, if things go bad, your job is not that risk. You might have to see the person every so often in the building, but that's manageable.

With the pandemic, a lot of white collar work is shifting partially or fully to work at home. Work at home is good for not creating awkward romance interactions.
If you're a VP and making 200k a year would you recommend trying to hit on and run game on all the females?
 

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If you're a VP and making 200k a year would you recommend trying to hit on and run game on all the females?
That's a terrible idea. You won't be a VP making $200,000 a year for long if you try to seduce female co-workers in your workplace.
 

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I think meeting women at work is a fantastic idea in the right circumstances:

Right - your job is easily replaced and you're not desperate for money/in love with your awesome job

Wrong - if you lose this job you'll be selling crack or homeless

Right - lots of attractive women work with you, a rotating variety

Wrong - only a few people you'll see all the time, few women, etc.

Right - your romantic prospects do not often turn radioactive

Wrong - all your exes hate you, or you hate them, or you often get pepper sprayed for being a creep, etc.
 

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If you're a VP and making 200k a year would you recommend trying to hit on and run game on all the females?
That's a terrible idea. You won't be a VP making $200,000 a year for long if you try to seduce female co-workers in your workplace.
Is it not a dream of every man to run a casting couch? I can definitely imagine being an executive and only interviewing large breasted females and only hiring the ones who came to interview in a low cut top and a mini skirt.

I've definitely seen Craigslist ads that sound kind of like the person is subtly trying to hire an escort and disguise it as a """personal assistant""" (seeking a female personal assistant, send 2-3 pictures, barely any mention of qualifications that would be on a resume, etc.)
 

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Is it not a dream of every man to run a casting couch? I can definitely imagine being an executive and only interviewing large breasted females and only hiring the ones who came to interview in a low cut top and a mini skirt.
That fantasy is rarely reality.
 

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Workplace romance has been discussed here at least one million times.

And as much as I respect another point of view, mine would still be the same: Work is NOT a place to meet women. It's simply not worth it. The juice (if any) is never worth the squeeze.

So, there's nothing to discuss here. Any attempt to would just result in meaningless and endless arguments.
 

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Raising a logical, pragmatic, and reasonale concern about a certain action is not equivalent with "living in fear," brother. Your logic is flawed.
Especially when the women you would be approaching are below you on the Org. chart.
 

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Workplace romance has been discussed here at least one million times.

And as much as I respect another point of view, mine would still be the same: Work is NOT a place to meet women. It's simply not worth it. The juice (if any) is never worth the squeeze.

So, there's nothing to discuss here. Any attempt to would just result in meaningless and endless arguments.
Unless it's a crappy job and you don't care if you lose it. Otherwise I agree 100%.
 
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