"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Don't know why but this pof.com line most of the time works?
- Thread starter Fatal Jay
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Purefilth
Master Don Juan
Thats one i send through mostly, compliments of our very own Naughty Ninja.
Its light, complimentary and gives them a chuckle.
Thats why it works.
Naughty Ninja
Banned
Fatal Jay said:
It kindof gasses their heads up that you think of them as "marriage" material. Same thing with the mom opener I'd made up. That one has them thinking your mom wants you to date them and I think they think it's great you're close to your mom and she wants you to date them. Along with the "cheeky" humor of putting mom in the old age home..lol
As soon as I'd send both and they reply you just ask them how the site is treating them. Then for the final tell them I'm not on the site much feel free to give me your number and I'll give you a call sometime. (Your real first name).
It's all direct and to the point.
The wedding one is:
Can we skip our first meet altogether and just head straight to the wedding chapel? =)
The mom one is:
My roommate came into the room while I was looking at your profile and told me that if I didn’t message you, she would. Now, she’s straight, so that’s an probably an empty threat but she does have an eye for pretty chicks so I’m totally going to trust my mom’s judgment on this one.
Let me know if she’s correct or else I swear to sweet baby Jesus I’m going to fulfill my promise of shipping her off to the “resting” home...It's up to you to be a super heroine and save my mom or else: Jello time for mommy and a side order of strained peas and carrots...
Or you can try:
I was thinking of sending you a semi-perfect opening message then I thought to myself: "Hmmm, I don't know but this adorable, lil cutie looks like trouble right here..
Your cute and positive email reply to me in 5.....4.....3.....2....1...GO! =)
For chicks who just view your profile yet don't reply to the first emails or just view you at random send the below whom another SS poster had made up (forgot who it was though.):
Oh okay...I see how it is...So you think you can just waltz up to my profile looking all cute..point at my pictures while laughing..and not say anything? Don't be a spy...say hi! =) (Your real first name)
***The
should turn into a devil character with a pitchfork when sent on POF email."She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Naughty Ninja
Banned
Fatal Jay said:
You could also try first emails something like (or use as follow up's to the wedding opener message if they don't give their number on your first try.):
We're never going to experience our divorce if we don't meet up first...I say we both throw caution to the wind and just go for it! You? =) (Your real first name)
Or: "I wanted to let you know I had a dream with our future children in it last night. They told me to tell you they need us to meet and become their parents. Let's do it for our future beautiful babies. :angel: :angel: =) Love, Daddy A.K.A (Your real first name)
**The :angel: :angel: will turn into angels on POF email when sent.
They'll both automatically have chicks thinking you don't mind taking "risks" and have them thinking of possibly "losing" you with the first message and or "making babies" with the second right off the bat by planting those seeds in your first message.
If they respond to those I'd go right into asking them for their number with my second reply. IE:"I know what I want when I see it and I go for it without beating around the bush. Give me your number and I'll give you a call sometime. (your real first name) =)