"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Don't know why but this pof.com line most of the time works?
- Thread starter Fatal Jay
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Purefilth
Master Don Juan
Thats one i send through mostly, compliments of our very own Naughty Ninja.
Its light, complimentary and gives them a chuckle.
Thats why it works.
Naughty Ninja
Banned
Fatal Jay said:
It kindof gasses their heads up that you think of them as "marriage" material. Same thing with the mom opener I'd made up. That one has them thinking your mom wants you to date them and I think they think it's great you're close to your mom and she wants you to date them. Along with the "cheeky" humor of putting mom in the old age home..lol
As soon as I'd send both and they reply you just ask them how the site is treating them. Then for the final tell them I'm not on the site much feel free to give me your number and I'll give you a call sometime. (Your real first name).
It's all direct and to the point.
The wedding one is:
Can we skip our first meet altogether and just head straight to the wedding chapel? =)
The mom one is:
My roommate came into the room while I was looking at your profile and told me that if I didn’t message you, she would. Now, she’s straight, so that’s an probably an empty threat but she does have an eye for pretty chicks so I’m totally going to trust my mom’s judgment on this one.
Let me know if she’s correct or else I swear to sweet baby Jesus I’m going to fulfill my promise of shipping her off to the “resting” home...It's up to you to be a super heroine and save my mom or else: Jello time for mommy and a side order of strained peas and carrots...
Or you can try:
I was thinking of sending you a semi-perfect opening message then I thought to myself: "Hmmm, I don't know but this adorable, lil cutie looks like trouble right here..
Your cute and positive email reply to me in 5.....4.....3.....2....1...GO! =)
For chicks who just view your profile yet don't reply to the first emails or just view you at random send the below whom another SS poster had made up (forgot who it was though.):
Oh okay...I see how it is...So you think you can just waltz up to my profile looking all cute..point at my pictures while laughing..and not say anything? Don't be a spy...say hi! =) (Your real first name)
***The
should turn into a devil character with a pitchfork when sent on POF email."She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Naughty Ninja
Banned
Fatal Jay said:
You could also try first emails something like (or use as follow up's to the wedding opener message if they don't give their number on your first try.):
We're never going to experience our divorce if we don't meet up first...I say we both throw caution to the wind and just go for it! You? =) (Your real first name)
Or: "I wanted to let you know I had a dream with our future children in it last night. They told me to tell you they need us to meet and become their parents. Let's do it for our future beautiful babies. :angel: :angel: =) Love, Daddy A.K.A (Your real first name)
**The :angel: :angel: will turn into angels on POF email when sent.
They'll both automatically have chicks thinking you don't mind taking "risks" and have them thinking of possibly "losing" you with the first message and or "making babies" with the second right off the bat by planting those seeds in your first message.
If they respond to those I'd go right into asking them for their number with my second reply. IE:"I know what I want when I see it and I go for it without beating around the bush. Give me your number and I'll give you a call sometime. (your real first name) =)