Zion
Senior Don Juan
Never sacrifice your career or future for anyone.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Don't know what to do with future because of gf
- Thread starter Dhoulmagus
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I am in the same boat. I've got 2 months left to graduate from university. If I succeed and cant get a job here, I move to an other chapter of my life. Thats its. She knows it, and I know it aswell. These guys are right, dont change your future for someone else.
Frayzer said:
Ha.. 180k house? That's it? .. Wow I wish home prices were like that here. Currently a shyt hole property near where I live is like 500k easy... There was one property for sale a while ago for 280k and it was a dive.. 9995 SF .. With asbestos insulation.. Man.. A 1bdrm condo here in vancouver, bc is 180k. The house I rent (which was built in the 60's) is 750k if I was to buy it.. And with current interest rates here @ prime + 2.75% if did.. And the interest goes up.. I would be fvcked.. And seeing how low interest rates are.. I'm sure they will hike it once people are trapped in 750k properties.. Shyt a 300k mortgage with prime + 2.75% will cost 50k in interest over 5 years... If interest went up to 4% or 6%.. There would be a lot of foreclosures.
My city is far too expensive to live in...
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I'm just going to clarify just in case my op is misleading. I will not stay a pizza driver for this girl. This girl's parents live in the city of my university, but she goes to school near Memphis. I can easily get a job in my field in Memphis, Nashville, Atlanta, Birmingham, Charlotte, and pretty much everywhere else in the country. The question is whether I should let this girl influence where I apply for jobs. If so, I will most likely apply in memphis where she's mainly at and my family lives there. The cons is that it's tn lol. Before I met this girl, I dreamed of going out west in to Arizona or something. This seems really bold and if I stayed in the southeast would it be better just to vacation there.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.