"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Don't know if I should ask this girl out, need help from the experts

lougv22

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ok, here is the situation: i went to a live rock concert last Friday and I met this girl there. My buddy and I were just sitting there enjoying the music and she came over and sat right next to me, she was by her self. She was kind of cute so I started a conversation with her. It was going pretty good, before long we exchanged phone numbers, she touched me on the arm once, and even mentioned something about me calling her. I was like, 'i may just do that', but I played it cool, i didn't express interest in her, even ignored her for a while, but she stuck around for a long time, at least an hour.

My plan was to call her and aske her to go for coffe 2 days later, but lo and be hold on Sunday morning, i.e. 2 days later, she texts me on my cell phone at 8:46 in the morning. I didn't text her back until 1 p.m. that day, actually that was not intentional, I didn't even see I had a text until about noon. Well, as soon as I text her she texts me back, I was like ookk. I waited about half an hour and text her back, played it cool again. This time she didn't respond for about 5 hours. Well, I didn't respond until the next day, and when I did I said 'Hi [her name], I am going to be busy the next couple of days but let's get together for a cup of coffee and stimulating conversation later this week.'

Well, that was on Monday around noon and she hasn't answered yet. I am kind of buffled because at first she showed high Interest Level and now she is not answering at all. What should I do now? I am thinking of just calling her and asking her out for coffee.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Lucas718

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Call her.

Don't ask her out through email or txt msg. It's weak. And stop quoting David Deangelo.
 

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People try to play hard to get through texting. Say you send a text,the othe person can sit there and not respond to your text for awhile,even though the phone may be in their hand the whole time. Just call her up!
 

trance_addict

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When in doubt, ask her out.

She accepts, great, you know her interest level. She rejects? Great, move on to the next one.
 

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blinkwatt said:
People try to play hard to get through texting. Say you send a text,the othe person can sit there and not respond to your text for awhile,even though the phone may be in their hand the whole time. Just call her up!
i am so fvcking sick of girls doing that, txting you first and then when you reply they play stupid games. lol
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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lougv22

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alright! i just called her and asked her out for tomorrow and she said 'yes'! thanks for the advice guys!
 
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