Just wanted to know if driving a car is necessary for having fun with girls. I mean right now I have to wait a month for my road test and im 18. Does that consider you low value if you tell a girl you don't have a licence or something?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Its called living in a city or metropolitan area and working locally.Snowman23 said:Yeah, how's he gonna move out without a car dumb@ss?
I'd like to know how some people's minds work around here.
And some people don't like to live in big cities... so they need a car...Leporello said:This is what happens when people build societies based around an expensive and impractical piece of machinery which uses a limited and dangerous resource.
I've never had a car in my life and it's never stopped me from getting a girl. I've lived in Washington, Boston, buenos Aires, and Ho Chi Minh city. All of those places (except HCMC) have good public transit systems. Yeah sometimes it takes longer to get places, but i more than make up for it in time saved trying to find parking.
Well DUHmothballs said:And some people don't like to live in big cities... so they need a car...
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Then don't complain about needing a car! Shyt.mothballs said:And some people don't like to live in big cities... so they need a car...
I have a car... All I said was that girls won't touch a 29 year old without a car.Leporello said:Then don't complain about needing a car! Shyt.
lol i agree... in most states thats impossible here in AmericaSnowman23 said:Yeah, how's he gonna move out without a car dumb@ss?
I'd like to know how some people's minds work around here.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
until you're stuck in a traffic jam (every few seconds in most cities), or need to find a place to park.thewarrior said:A car is freedom, you may live in the city but what if you meet a hottie that lives outside the city? Plus I hate riding crowded, stinky buses with fat people asses in my face.
Captain Harlock said:until you're stuck in a traffic jam (every few seconds in most cities), or need to find a place to park.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.