"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Don't give women free non sexual attention.

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Was discussing this with a friend last night. If a woman is not making an effort to reach out to you and spend time with you, you should basically ignore her.

No social media likes.
Don't follow her stories on snap or insta.
If you run across her in person let her come to you but be fun to be around if she does.

Are there any other examples of this?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Just treat them as you would treat a man...its really that simple.

No rewards unless earned and no extra tolerance toward stupid behaviours.

Would you help a random guy who didnt speak to from months to move his furniture? would you keep a conversation with a man who happens to be boring, focused on himself and uninterested about you?

No we wouldnt, too bad most men understand this only after their mid 30s.
 

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Just treat them as you would treat a man...its really that simple.

No rewards unless earned and no extra tolerance toward stupid behaviours.

Would you help a random guy who didnt speak to from months to move his furniture? would you keep a conversation with a man who happens to be boring, focused on himself and uninterested about you?

No we wouldnt, too bad most men understand this only after their mid 30s.
This is a great example and exactly what my buddy and I were talking about. Don't reward women for being uninterested in you. If she's not making an effort treat her like she doesn't exist.
 

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Why do you need examples exactly, just to back up the idea?

You're on the right track. These things are pertinent for men who are unplugging, developing, etc. It helps them break poor habits.

Once you get past a certain point, it all becomes behavioral and any "rules" can be tossed out the window. If you've built your life up to where you're always meeting women, you just do what you want.
It was an interesting discussion just looking for more examples and opinions.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Was discussing this with a friend last night. If a woman is not making an effort to reach out to you and spend time with you, you should basically ignore her.

No social media likes.
Don't follow her stories on snap or insta.
If you run across her in person let her come to you but be fun to be around if she does.

Are there any other examples of this?
You shouldn't reward women if all they want to do is text you and not spend any time outside the phone
 

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When I'm doing online dating and a woman mentions some guy being a creep and sending her D pictures or whatever else guys like that online do, my response:

"Yeah I've heard that about guys. With chicks, it's all about attention. Chicks like to see how many guys they can text with and each text they get is like a crack fix. Then when you ask them to meet they disappear like a fart in the wind and move to other 'dealers'"

I have said this before, and then never heard from her again!
 

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Correct me if Im wrong, if you give a woman attention and you try to s3x up the conversation but she doges that should bring up red flags to you.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Was discussing this with a friend last night. If a woman is not making an effort to reach out to you and spend time with you, you should basically ignore her.

No social media likes.
Don't follow her stories on snap or insta.
If you run across her in person let her come to you but be fun to be around if she does.

Are there any other examples of this?
I only add women on my insta who i have banged or got close to banging ...lol
 
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