"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Don't get that number if you don't intend on using it

amoka

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I took the time to go through my phone today and noticed half of the ladies on the phone, I have not talked to in like 6 months. Some of which I even forgot how and where we met. So deleted them all. But before I did, I sent a mass text to all of them to see who is viable for FB. only handful responded to my message so my phone is now about 25 "unspoken to" ladies less than before. So, if you don't plan on using the number, do not get it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Kal0051

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I think a better thing to say would be "If you don't intend to use it don't keep it". Sometimes getting a girl's number is good practice/fun.
 

Lust

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Agreed.

Something to ask yourself:

"Do i really want this girl's number? Do i really want to get to know her better because I genuinely find her interesting? Or do i just want an ego boost, validation and to impress some mates?"

That being said, giving your number OUT is a lot better than asking for a number. It's not so easy to fall into the ego trap (as it's not really that impressive), yet you set yourself up as the one being chased from the start. If she contacts you, great. If not, meh.

Doing this with women you aren't sure if you're interested in, or even when you're in a LTR has a number of positives. Especially if you're in an LTR. It shows your girlfriend that she's lucky to have you and if she doesn't make the most of it, someone else will take her place.
 

Hughman

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Getting the number hardly means anything these days. Still, it's good to do to just keep yourself sharp when you actually really want a number of someone you actually plan to call.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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