"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Don't get that number if you don't intend on using it

amoka

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I took the time to go through my phone today and noticed half of the ladies on the phone, I have not talked to in like 6 months. Some of which I even forgot how and where we met. So deleted them all. But before I did, I sent a mass text to all of them to see who is viable for FB. only handful responded to my message so my phone is now about 25 "unspoken to" ladies less than before. So, if you don't plan on using the number, do not get it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Kal0051

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I think a better thing to say would be "If you don't intend to use it don't keep it". Sometimes getting a girl's number is good practice/fun.
 

Lust

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Agreed.

Something to ask yourself:

"Do i really want this girl's number? Do i really want to get to know her better because I genuinely find her interesting? Or do i just want an ego boost, validation and to impress some mates?"

That being said, giving your number OUT is a lot better than asking for a number. It's not so easy to fall into the ego trap (as it's not really that impressive), yet you set yourself up as the one being chased from the start. If she contacts you, great. If not, meh.

Doing this with women you aren't sure if you're interested in, or even when you're in a LTR has a number of positives. Especially if you're in an LTR. It shows your girlfriend that she's lucky to have you and if she doesn't make the most of it, someone else will take her place.
 

Hughman

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Getting the number hardly means anything these days. Still, it's good to do to just keep yourself sharp when you actually really want a number of someone you actually plan to call.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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