"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Don't get that number if you don't intend on using it

amoka

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I took the time to go through my phone today and noticed half of the ladies on the phone, I have not talked to in like 6 months. Some of which I even forgot how and where we met. So deleted them all. But before I did, I sent a mass text to all of them to see who is viable for FB. only handful responded to my message so my phone is now about 25 "unspoken to" ladies less than before. So, if you don't plan on using the number, do not get it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Kal0051

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I think a better thing to say would be "If you don't intend to use it don't keep it". Sometimes getting a girl's number is good practice/fun.
 

Lust

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Agreed.

Something to ask yourself:

"Do i really want this girl's number? Do i really want to get to know her better because I genuinely find her interesting? Or do i just want an ego boost, validation and to impress some mates?"

That being said, giving your number OUT is a lot better than asking for a number. It's not so easy to fall into the ego trap (as it's not really that impressive), yet you set yourself up as the one being chased from the start. If she contacts you, great. If not, meh.

Doing this with women you aren't sure if you're interested in, or even when you're in a LTR has a number of positives. Especially if you're in an LTR. It shows your girlfriend that she's lucky to have you and if she doesn't make the most of it, someone else will take her place.
 

Hughman

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Getting the number hardly means anything these days. Still, it's good to do to just keep yourself sharp when you actually really want a number of someone you actually plan to call.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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