Don't get it, everyone thinks I'm successful with the ladies, when in reality...

[teddy]

I'm not at all. Like I've said on this board before, I've never even had a girlfriend.

And yet, because I'm sociable and well-liked by my peers, they assume I'm successful.

Nothing to do with my looks or frame because they are both below-average. Makes me wonder if I'm too friendly. But then once I think that, I start messing up.

Frankly, I'm a little puzzled why I've had zero success because even a blind squirrel runs into an acorn once in a while.

The good news is that I faced reality and accepted I've gotten nowhere and am in trying in the process to build myself back up. It just really sucks though when you see other betas have success. Oneitis doesn't help, either.

 

[Mike32ct]

First, let me say, DON'T tell anybody that you are having trouble with women*.

You have a great rep as a guy that gets girls. Please don't ruin it by "letting the cat out of the bag."

Trust no one to keep their mouth shut about your real situation.

Post on here for advice. Seeking advice from female friends or even most guy friends will do far more harm than good.

The absolute best place to be is the guy that others know or believe is a ladies man, but you don't actually talk about it. Girls will see him as a smooth, sexy, experienced guy that they can have fun with, AND he's discreet enough not to kiss and tell.

*As the latest of "late bloomers," I learned this the hard way. This point about keeping it to yourself absolutely CANNOT be overemphasized.

 

[CrimsonPanther]

if you are sociable, and friendly, and still don't have success with women, try being more sexual (not a pervert). use kino, and escalate more aggresively. don't hide your intentions. be open about it, a dominant, but not intimidating.
with escalation, keep your cool, move 2 steps forward, if resisted, one back, try again later, just don't emanate that harmless guy friend aura. it leads to friendzone.
for all guys who are insecure: rejection is BETTER than friendzone. trust me it is. not worth spending time on lost cases when you could just next and bang another.
also, ask yourself: do the guys look at you as a friend or as a leader? do they respect you even? if not, there could also be a problem. if yes, just be more sexual

 

[Vice]

Go out and approach seven nights a week for a month and see how your oneitis is affected.

 

[Poop1337]

It's good to be seen as a ladies man. Girls want to get with guys who can get girls. If people saw you as a loser with women it would only add to your struggles.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

It's good to be seen as a ladies man. Girls want to get with guys who can get girls. If people saw you as a loser with women it would only add to your struggles.

yup women have a pre-selection mentality

 

[Dgwizdal]

Fake it til you make it Teddy.