I see a lot of guys saying that at some point in the interaction with a female they lost the frame. The solution so this never happend is to become the frame the frame is an act. If you live your life based on these tenants you will never lose your frame.
A woman can never be the #1 priority
In action movies where there is a male and female lead the male is always in pursuit of something.. a treasure, money, his freedom or even revenge. He usually meets the female lead while in pursuit of his mission and she becomes a part of helping him obtain his goal.
That is to say that you must have a mission. The female is always secondary to the mission. She can never be the number one priority or the mission fails. Often times the drive you have to complete your mission is what attracted her to you. So never make her number 1 priority. She is just a chess piece.
Never cancel plans for her.
If you make plans with your comrads, family or coworkers and she decides she wants to see you, you are not to cancel plans for her. Nothing kills attraction more than too much availability. Make it known your busy, don't let her know what you are doing ..its none of her concern. She must wait till there is a lapse in your schedule and she can fit in. This goes for plate, girlfriend or wife.
Once she knows she is the number one priority she will lose respect for you .. i cannot tell you why this is so because i do not know but thats the way it is.
You must have hobbies that you dedicate time to .. never give her your hobby time
You must pursue hobbies that you enjoy, that is your time.
Restoring old automobiles, falconry, motorcycle riding, parkour, painting, chess.. anything that you enjoy or wanted to do. This gives you something to talk about.. makes you interesting and can be beneficial for your sanity. Make it be known when your hobby time Is and never let a woman take away your hobby time. Not for a bj, anal sex or a threesome with Peggy Bundy.
You must set your boundaries from the beginning.
My pet peeve is flaking. I immediately delete flakes out my phone. I have a 1 flake policy. Im so adamant about it that I tell them when i get the number that If we make plans, and they flake on me I will never make plans with then again.
I'm so hard on flakes because I'm busy. I work a ton, workout, i am trying to become a personal trainer and i have a few other hobbies. I literaly have to schedule sleep.
The time i set aside to go on a date and you cancel last minute could have been used for something else.
One of the other boundaries I tell them in the beginning is
No constantly starring at phones when with me. An occasional glance is ok, but if you keep starting at your phone i will get up and leave. Once again I'm busy. I didn't come on a date to watch you check your instagram.
Pursue fitness
You must pursue fitness. This is my golden rule for don Juans. It doesn't have to be lifting weights. It can be long distance running or wall climbing but you must do something to stay fit. You stay fit incase you have to protect your love ones, a Natural disaster where you must run for your life, to be a better lover in bed. It's the ultimate frame. 45 minutes a day, find it. Even if it's push ups and situps at work in the break room.
But when you do get some time..
Show her the time of her life. Eat and be merry and enjoy her company. Be in good spirits. Make her feel special for that moment. Really get into your time with her..
but once that time is over..
Back to the mission
So in closing if you follow these rules, simple and short rules at that.. you will never have to worry about losing your frame. You will become the frame.
Thanks, as always input is welcome.
A woman can never be the #1 priority
In action movies where there is a male and female lead the male is always in pursuit of something.. a treasure, money, his freedom or even revenge. He usually meets the female lead while in pursuit of his mission and she becomes a part of helping him obtain his goal.
That is to say that you must have a mission. The female is always secondary to the mission. She can never be the number one priority or the mission fails. Often times the drive you have to complete your mission is what attracted her to you. So never make her number 1 priority. She is just a chess piece.
Never cancel plans for her.
If you make plans with your comrads, family or coworkers and she decides she wants to see you, you are not to cancel plans for her. Nothing kills attraction more than too much availability. Make it known your busy, don't let her know what you are doing ..its none of her concern. She must wait till there is a lapse in your schedule and she can fit in. This goes for plate, girlfriend or wife.
Once she knows she is the number one priority she will lose respect for you .. i cannot tell you why this is so because i do not know but thats the way it is.
You must have hobbies that you dedicate time to .. never give her your hobby time
You must pursue hobbies that you enjoy, that is your time.
Restoring old automobiles, falconry, motorcycle riding, parkour, painting, chess.. anything that you enjoy or wanted to do. This gives you something to talk about.. makes you interesting and can be beneficial for your sanity. Make it be known when your hobby time Is and never let a woman take away your hobby time. Not for a bj, anal sex or a threesome with Peggy Bundy.
You must set your boundaries from the beginning.
My pet peeve is flaking. I immediately delete flakes out my phone. I have a 1 flake policy. Im so adamant about it that I tell them when i get the number that If we make plans, and they flake on me I will never make plans with then again.
I'm so hard on flakes because I'm busy. I work a ton, workout, i am trying to become a personal trainer and i have a few other hobbies. I literaly have to schedule sleep.
The time i set aside to go on a date and you cancel last minute could have been used for something else.
One of the other boundaries I tell them in the beginning is
No constantly starring at phones when with me. An occasional glance is ok, but if you keep starting at your phone i will get up and leave. Once again I'm busy. I didn't come on a date to watch you check your instagram.
Pursue fitness
You must pursue fitness. This is my golden rule for don Juans. It doesn't have to be lifting weights. It can be long distance running or wall climbing but you must do something to stay fit. You stay fit incase you have to protect your love ones, a Natural disaster where you must run for your life, to be a better lover in bed. It's the ultimate frame. 45 minutes a day, find it. Even if it's push ups and situps at work in the break room.
But when you do get some time..
Show her the time of her life. Eat and be merry and enjoy her company. Be in good spirits. Make her feel special for that moment. Really get into your time with her..
but once that time is over..
Back to the mission
So in closing if you follow these rules, simple and short rules at that.. you will never have to worry about losing your frame. You will become the frame.
Thanks, as always input is welcome.
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