Don't ever lose the frame become the frame..

[cola]

I see a lot of guys saying that at some point in the interaction with a female they lost the frame. The solution so this never happend is to become the frame the frame is an act. If you live your life based on these tenants you will never lose your frame.

A woman can never be the #1 priority

In action movies where there is a male and female lead the male is always in pursuit of something.. a treasure, money, his freedom or even revenge. He usually meets the female lead while in pursuit of his mission and she becomes a part of helping him obtain his goal.

That is to say that you must have a mission. The female is always secondary to the mission. She can never be the number one priority or the mission fails. Often times the drive you have to complete your mission is what attracted her to you. So never make her number 1 priority. She is just a chess piece.

Never cancel plans for her.

If you make plans with your comrads, family or coworkers and she decides she wants to see you, you are not to cancel plans for her. Nothing kills attraction more than too much availability. Make it known your busy, don't let her know what you are doing ..its none of her concern. She must wait till there is a lapse in your schedule and she can fit in. This goes for plate, girlfriend or wife.
Once she knows she is the number one priority she will lose respect for you .. i cannot tell you why this is so because i do not know but thats the way it is.

You must have hobbies that you dedicate time to .. never give her your hobby time
You must pursue hobbies that you enjoy, that is your time.
Restoring old automobiles, falconry, motorcycle riding, parkour, painting, chess.. anything that you enjoy or wanted to do. This gives you something to talk about.. makes you interesting and can be beneficial for your sanity. Make it be known when your hobby time Is and never let a woman take away your hobby time. Not for a bj, anal sex or a threesome with Peggy Bundy.

You must set your boundaries from the beginning.

My pet peeve is flaking. I immediately delete flakes out my phone. I have a 1 flake policy. Im so adamant about it that I tell them when i get the number that If we make plans, and they flake on me I will never make plans with then again.
I'm so hard on flakes because I'm busy. I work a ton, workout, i am trying to become a personal trainer and i have a few other hobbies. I literaly have to schedule sleep.
The time i set aside to go on a date and you cancel last minute could have been used for something else.

One of the other boundaries I tell them in the beginning is
No constantly starring at phones when with me. An occasional glance is ok, but if you keep starting at your phone i will get up and leave. Once again I'm busy. I didn't come on a date to watch you check your instagram.

Pursue fitness

You must pursue fitness. This is my golden rule for don Juans. It doesn't have to be lifting weights. It can be long distance running or wall climbing but you must do something to stay fit. You stay fit incase you have to protect your love ones, a Natural disaster where you must run for your life, to be a better lover in bed. It's the ultimate frame. 45 minutes a day, find it. Even if it's push ups and situps at work in the break room.

But when you do get some time..

Show her the time of her life. Eat and be merry and enjoy her company. Be in good spirits. Make her feel special for that moment. Really get into your time with her..
but once that time is over..
Back to the mission

So in closing if you follow these rules, simple and short rules at that.. you will never have to worry about losing your frame. You will become the frame.

Thanks, as always input is welcome.

 

[cola]

Thank you. Im just trying to bring some quality posts to SoSuave. Some of it goes against the grain, but my intention is always to help.

Yes, wanting to see you and not being able to creates a fondness in her heart for you. You can fake being busy but it comes across so much better if you are really busy.

I dont know why it is but me and my friends have all noticed that once you make a woman a top priority she loses interest.. perhaps its because our ancestors were too busy doing things like hunting and building shelter to cater to her every whine.. if that makes sense

 

[Peña]

I like very much what you have to say Cola. All on point as I can see. I would like to add do not change who you are for women. Do not change what you are doing holding the frame. When you change that is when the trouble will start and her attitude will change.

 

[Poon King]

Its not about "frame" and it never has been. Winning at this game is less about following rules and more about mindset. Your mindset will rule your emotional response to ALL situations.

So you can have the best rules in the world.. but if you have the mindset of a weak b!tch.. then you will have the emotional response of a weak b!tch when women test you, reject you, challenge you, etc.

IF you have the mindset that YOUR wants, needs, values and goals will always come before a woman's.. you will be fine.

The problem with too many men is they have no purpose in life outside of chasing tail and being a slave to female validation. This is called being a loser. :crackup:

 

[cola]

Thanks Danger, when I came here I was 19 or so. I'm 26 in 2 weeks..did some living, learned a thing or two. Now I try to share..

 

[G_Govan]

Some good points made in the OP.

Its not about "frame" and it never has been. Winning at this game is less about following rules and more about mindset. Your mindset will rule your emotional response to ALL situations.

I also agree with this to a point. I believe holding the frame can lead to adopting the right mindset, in a "best practices" sort of way.

I have a close friend who can be described as an overly nice guy. Typically clueless about women and suffers from all the usual issues discussed on this site.

I witnessed this guy behave like a "natural" who was completely comfortable in his own skin. In this moment he could've been mistaken for a professional PUA, that's how confident he was... when he was with an ugly chick.

He becomes a completely different person when he's with a chick who's of higher value and of course all the counterproductive habits are out in full force because of fear. The fear of losing a halfway decent looking woman.

When you're able to conquer this fear it shows in your behavior and requires no forethought or conscious awareness. It literally speaks for itself.