"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"Don't do that, your parents are downstairs"

dontknowbouthat

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Yes this belongs in the HS forum, but it's empty. So here I am.

The girl that I've been seeing recently - not a gf - likes it when I make use of my fingers, and while we were 'watching' a movie at my house a few days ago I started to rub on the outside of her pants, which she really liked. I began to slide my fingers underneath her pants, when she grabbed my wrist, and said softly, "no..." to which I responded "why?" She said "your parents are downstairs", and they were, but in no position to hear anything. Regardless, I stopped.

My question is, should I have tried to go again, and whispered in her ear "it's no big deal" or something? Was this a situation where "no" really meant "no"?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Tiguere

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Shouldve kept going. once that well starts overflowing she won't care if father salomon and mother marie are downstairs.
 

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She might of been on her period? Chicks usually dig the excitement of possibly being 'caught'. 'No' sometimes just means try harder. Try sucking/biting her neck next time she says 'no' then try again, be persistent, but don't push too hard.
 

Proselytiser

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I would've given no response except to continue or said it's no big deal and continued.

That said I really can't figure out whether it was token or real resistance from what you've posted, it could easily have been the case that she simply wanted you to stop and used that excuse instead of flat out telling you that you were annoying her
 

Cinamon

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I think you should have tried again. If you get three no's then stop, but sometimes the no is automatic.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Abcd

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"No" usually means keep doing what you were doing before for a little longer and try me again in 2 minutes or so.
 

Abcd

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Obviously if you get more than 2-3 no's, or if she sounds at all pissed off, it actually means no.
 

YogurtSlinger

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You should have taken off your pants and seen what happened. Then you would have known if no meant no.
 
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