"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"Don't do that, your parents are downstairs"

dontknowbouthat

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Yes this belongs in the HS forum, but it's empty. So here I am.

The girl that I've been seeing recently - not a gf - likes it when I make use of my fingers, and while we were 'watching' a movie at my house a few days ago I started to rub on the outside of her pants, which she really liked. I began to slide my fingers underneath her pants, when she grabbed my wrist, and said softly, "no..." to which I responded "why?" She said "your parents are downstairs", and they were, but in no position to hear anything. Regardless, I stopped.

My question is, should I have tried to go again, and whispered in her ear "it's no big deal" or something? Was this a situation where "no" really meant "no"?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Tiguere

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Shouldve kept going. once that well starts overflowing she won't care if father salomon and mother marie are downstairs.
 

alphaace

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She might of been on her period? Chicks usually dig the excitement of possibly being 'caught'. 'No' sometimes just means try harder. Try sucking/biting her neck next time she says 'no' then try again, be persistent, but don't push too hard.
 

Proselytiser

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It's all right........ if u have a good time!
I would've given no response except to continue or said it's no big deal and continued.

That said I really can't figure out whether it was token or real resistance from what you've posted, it could easily have been the case that she simply wanted you to stop and used that excuse instead of flat out telling you that you were annoying her
 

Cinamon

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I think you should have tried again. If you get three no's then stop, but sometimes the no is automatic.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Abcd

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"No" usually means keep doing what you were doing before for a little longer and try me again in 2 minutes or so.
 

Abcd

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Obviously if you get more than 2-3 no's, or if she sounds at all pissed off, it actually means no.
 

YogurtSlinger

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You should have taken off your pants and seen what happened. Then you would have known if no meant no.
 
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