"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dont call ppl?

bbboi

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i have met three different girls some from school and work and one thing that they said was that they dont call ppl i find that weird as to why they would tell me they arent the type to call ppl? can anyone make sense of this?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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tsmith2334

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i've been told that before too. sometimes girls want you to make the first step. it can actually be a sign of interest.
 

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Be careful since this might mean :

"I want males to be Men, and call me first. I don't make the first move."
or
"I am too self important. and self absorbed and people are simply not worth my time, and they are beneath me. So I don't call people."
or
"I am playing hard to get. This is part of the chase to see if you really want me."
or
"I am immature and also anti social."
or
"I am so self important that I don't nurture or create mature friendships and wait for people to go out of their way to interest me, enetertain me, and get my attention."

It's not a good sign, but it's not a bad sign. If you're mature, confident, and have self esteem, it won't affect you. Especially after you find out who she really is.
Since you're not desperate, and defintiely NOT desperate for an immature , low class snob, then you won't be running over coals to get with these types of females.
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I do believe it shows poor social skills, and it is immature.
 

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How did you get all three to tell you that they don't call people? How did it even come up in the conversation in the first place? Very odd. Never happened to me before.
 

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thx alot and L B i didnt meet them all at once they came at separate times. Ill call them see if it gets anywhere ill post information later
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Lord Shinra

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I openly mock girls like that, almost to their faces. It is just a show of such immaturity, I feel that the effort just isn't worth the compensation.
 

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I never call people either. Some people just aren’t into that game; some actually see the whole obsession with getting phone numbers and calling as rather silly.


Lord Shinra said:
I openly mock girls like that, almost to their faces. It is just a show of such immaturity, I feel that the effort just isn't worth the compensation.
And your mocking them is mature?
 

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Interceptor hit the nail on the head. But most girls dont call guys unless theyre really interested or theyre dating. I have a GF and I really dont like to call her much. And I dont have text so it drives her insane. To the point of heated arguments. Im not much of a phone person unless theyre very interesting
 

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yea i spoke to one of them and i realized she a watse of time came with a i called to wish you merry christmas and i left you a message which never hapenned and had to just brush her off the games some ppl play ridiculous
 

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potato said:
I never call people either. Some people just aren’t into that game; some actually see the whole obsession with getting phone numbers and calling as rather silly.


And your mocking them is mature?
Yeah, if you do it in a way that is 3rd grade like is very immature.
However, they just left the door open to neg or some other BS. Be unique and dont supplicate with the text game, thats what I do.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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