"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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dont assume or attatch meaning...

Bjj_playa

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as i've posted before, im still actively getting over this shyness problem..so i like to post experiences i have and new things that i learn.

today i went to this mma club around my house to get some information. i walked in and the receptionist greeted me..i assumed she was in her 20's from the way she looked..pretty hot. anyways, she keeps talking to me and trying to start a conversation, and in the back of my mind in thinking (wtf, im only 17 why is she talking to me like this)...because of this, and because of old habit, i didnt really say much, and i started feeling a little nervous. i could tell she was intersted. i kept talking to her and found out shes my age.

before i found out about her, in my mind i was attatching meaning to just plain things i observed, such as the way she looked and her age, without knowing the facts. i assumed because she looked older, she wouldnt be interested. things like this happen everyday to us...maybe somebody forgot to call you when they said they would, then you attatch meaning to that and assume they dont like u, or they dont care, when in reality something totaly different might have happened like they slept in or they just plain forgot :) .

i noticed in my life i was always attatching negative meanings to situations where i didnt know the facts...and this can damage us.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I have been told the same thing by others regarding the labeling of subcultures. However, I still would not dare speak to an "Emo" girl because, while I do not dislike them personally, I dislike what they represent. Sometimes labelling will interfere no matter what.
 

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I SPEAK to emos, I just would'nt date one. (actually, if they were hot, I'd work the friends with benegits anyhoo.)
 

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hahahaha this thread...

from something about a 20 yr old chick to banging emos...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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