"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So this woman is a knockout, and she's really into me, and we're having a lot of great sex for a couple months, long distance, not a relationship, but...

...after she came to the big event for the charity I run this past weekend, she's also started adding a couple of my friends on Facebook, and my mother. I don't need anyone I'm dating to be adding my mother on fb. It would be different if I met this woman through one of my friends, but she met me first, before anyone in my personal life.

And now this woman's sister, who I met once for five minutes, is adding me on facebook, and I haven't responded.

Those with the DJ mindset on this forum I'm sure are feeling that ick scale rising at the thought of this. I want to be perfectly DJ about this, I can't decide whether I play it off like I don't care or ask her what the fvck she was thinking. Now I understand what hot women feel like when overeager guys start to invade their space.

What's your take on this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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To keep a watch on you. This so-called knockout woman (and her sister) will be examining every photo album and post in great detail.
 
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Well I didn't accept the sister's request. Don't think I will, either.

I see this woman again this coming weekend. Is there a good DJ way to broach the subject and shut down the fb nonsense, or do I act like I don't care?
 
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Don't get me wrong, her interest level shows that I'm doing things right. Using the DJ mindset works to get these women chasing, but then they start CHASING, and you realize that knowing what you're doing can be both a blessing and a curse.

I don't give a fvck what the sister thinks, because she's a basketcase and a fruit loop.

And I don't advertise anything. I've kept this very nondescript. I accepted the woman's fb friend request a couple months back but we don't tag each other in anything. She told me she likes to keep her private life private...

Goes to show you, kids...never believe a woman's words, watch her actions...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ugh another Facebook spy. I think it might be in a guys best interest to just not have Facebook at all. I've never had a FB account, and never will.
 
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To keep a watch on you. This so-called knockout woman (and her sister) will be examining every photo album and post in great detail.
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Spot on. This is why I don't have a Facebook. Potential BPD right here. I'm guessing she showers you with lots of attention and makes you feel on top of the world too.
 
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Spot on. This is why I don't have a Facebook. Potential BPD right here. I'm guessing she showers you with lots of attention and makes you feel on top of the world too.
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Haha once she says something along the lines of "I really feel like you get me" or some variation of that...get the fvck outta there. And seriously consider closing the FB account. As Espi pointed out, mystery is what you want.
 
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not only to keep a watch on you but never tell a girl you have a facebook that sh!!ttt is poison and toxic to some extent.
 
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I'd make a joke of it and still not accept.

Something like 'being a fb friend of mine is not an honour i give out lightly :D'

Works best if you have loadsa fb friends too.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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It's just a website. I tend not to add/accept women of interest on there anymore as it seems to complicate matters on occasion, and the consequent familiarity (with being able to look at your photo anytime she wants) breeds contempt.

I check out a couple of pages of a couple of girls sometimes and a lot of the time, they don't react at all to any responses (from men or women) to their original posts. This thing is just another way people gain social validation. It is only so popular because it is immediate.

Otherwise I wouldn't worry too much about such things; it's a vacuous website. Add them, don't add them; it shouldn't really concern you too much. If she or her family judge your content, you're better off without them. Who cares. Let them have their totally FB time. Personally I really don't take to women/people in general who spend excessive time staring at their phones; equally, the highest quality women will not be overly concerned with your social network presence either.

However, with regards to the OP, all this frenetic online activity seems a bit excessive. Especially with view to someone who you've known for two months and not even in a relationship with. With regards to the above, I would distance myself a bit from these people. And probably eventually find a new woman.
 
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