Don Juan's Best Reaction to This...

[Stugots26]

So this woman is a knockout, and she's really into me, and we're having a lot of great sex for a couple months, long distance, not a relationship, but...

...after she came to the big event for the charity I run this past weekend, she's also started adding a couple of my friends on Facebook, and my mother. I don't need anyone I'm dating to be adding my mother on fb. It would be different if I met this woman through one of my friends, but she met me first, before anyone in my personal life.

And now this woman's sister, who I met once for five minutes, is adding me on facebook, and I haven't responded.

Those with the DJ mindset on this forum I'm sure are feeling that ick scale rising at the thought of this. I want to be perfectly DJ about this, I can't decide whether I play it off like I don't care or ask her what the fvck she was thinking. Now I understand what hot women feel like when overeager guys start to invade their space.

What's your take on this?

 

[Duracell_Bunny]

To keep a watch on you. This so-called knockout woman (and her sister) will be examining every photo album and post in great detail.

 

[Stugots26]

Well I didn't accept the sister's request. Don't think I will, either.

I see this woman again this coming weekend. Is there a good DJ way to broach the subject and shut down the fb nonsense, or do I act like I don't care?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Never, ever, ever tell a woman you have facebook, lol

 

[Stugots26]

Don't get me wrong, her interest level shows that I'm doing things right. Using the DJ mindset works to get these women chasing, but then they start CHASING, and you realize that knowing what you're doing can be both a blessing and a curse.

I don't give a fvck what the sister thinks, because she's a basketcase and a fruit loop.

And I don't advertise anything. I've kept this very nondescript. I accepted the woman's fb friend request a couple months back but we don't tag each other in anything. She told me she likes to keep her private life private...

Goes to show you, kids...never believe a woman's words, watch her actions...

 

[GS750]

Ugh another Facebook spy. I think it might be in a guys best interest to just not have Facebook at all. I've never had a FB account, and never will.

 

[El Payaso]

To keep a watch on you. This so-called knockout woman (and her sister) will be examining every photo album and post in great detail.

Spot on. This is why I don't have a Facebook. Potential BPD right here. I'm guessing she showers you with lots of attention and makes you feel on top of the world too.

 

[GS750]

Spot on. This is why I don't have a Facebook. Potential BPD right here. I'm guessing she showers you with lots of attention and makes you feel on top of the world too.

Haha once she says something along the lines of "I really feel like you get me" or some variation of that...get the fvck outta there. And seriously consider closing the FB account. As Espi pointed out, mystery is what you want.

 

[Jair213]

not only to keep a watch on you but never tell a girl you have a facebook that sh!!ttt is poison and toxic to some extent.

 

[Comatozed]

I'd make a joke of it and still not accept.

Something like 'being a fb friend of mine is not an honour i give out lightly '

Works best if you have loadsa fb friends too.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

It's just a website. I tend not to add/accept women of interest on there anymore as it seems to complicate matters on occasion, and the consequent familiarity (with being able to look at your photo anytime she wants) breeds contempt.

I check out a couple of pages of a couple of girls sometimes and a lot of the time, they don't react at all to any responses (from men or women) to their original posts. This thing is just another way people gain social validation. It is only so popular because it is immediate.

Otherwise I wouldn't worry too much about such things; it's a vacuous website. Add them, don't add them; it shouldn't really concern you too much. If she or her family judge your content, you're better off without them. Who cares. Let them have their totally FB time. Personally I really don't take to women/people in general who spend excessive time staring at their phones; equally, the highest quality women will not be overly concerned with your social network presence either.

However, with regards to the OP, all this frenetic online activity seems a bit excessive. Especially with view to someone who you've known for two months and not even in a relationship with. With regards to the above, I would distance myself a bit from these people. And probably eventually find a new woman.