SeymourCake
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Is that supposed to be a commercial for the Mercedes CLS? I can't make out a single word he's saying.SeymourCake said:
[AZ]Bokanovsky said:Is that supposed to be a commercial for the Mercedes CLS? I can't make out a single word he's saying.
Obviously you don't understand if you think these lyrics are indecipherable gibberish. You should question your own eloquence.Bokanovsky said:Seymourcake, I don't see anything don juan about that song (or any other songs posted in this thread so far). A true DJ is supposed to be eloquent. Eloquence is one of the main indicators of intelligence in a man. A guy mumbling some indecipherable gibberish is the opposite of eloquent.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
-Gripz- said:AZ has always been dope. Do or Die is a classic.
I think this track of his fits Don Juan pretty well. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nM4N5svMcII