"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Htienvu

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I have a rough idea of what being a DJ is but I want the full meaning of it. Can you guys list what a true DJ is please, it will be like a guide line for me to refer to and improve myself.

Thanks all in advance...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Iceberg

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I don't like the idea of working under "cool" internet labels, so I won't tell you what a DJ is or how to become one.

This site is about becoming a better man. Guys first come here to get help with getting girls. But really it's about becoming the man that girls would want to date. It's not about pickup lines, and nice shirts. It's about becoming curious about the world...developing hobbies, traveling, setting goals and accomplishing them.

I don't want to be a DJ or a Player or a Pimp. I'm an adult...there's no need to label how I live. The goal here is to become a better man who can accept the ups and downs of dating women because he has bigger things going on in his life.
 

Warrior74

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Screw being a Duan Juan. That sh1t is lame. Just be yourself and be the best guy you can be. You know the 'you' in your head? the one that dresses the way you want to dress, and talks the way you want to talk, and does the things you want to do? Start trying to be him 247.

Just enjoy your life, date some girls. Have some fun. That's what its all about.
 

Htienvu

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I don't want to be labeled, I don't think it's some cool name, I don't want to be a player, I am myself and I am the best guy to me. However, I never want to stop improving myself, you guys talk about DJ this/that all the time, I'd like what the positives of "DJ" means so I can improve further. I will not live by what you guys say but it's like a reference point, if I disagree or don't like any of the traits I can discard them. I'll make those decisions myself as an adult would.
 

rushing dude 123

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DJ: chases his dreams, takes what he wants, never gives up on himself, lives life to the fullest.

These are the basics qualities i think a dj should have and they will vary depending on what type of person you want to become. No one can really label you a DJ except yourself, because it is not what other people think about you, but it is how you see yourself and who you are to you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ELITE

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Be your self, but one thing made me stronger on this site. Don't take any bull shyt from a girl. I been more able to walk away with more confidence when any drama are mind games occur with women...
 

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Iceberg said:
I don't like the idea of working under "cool" internet labels, so I won't tell you what a DJ is or how to become one.

This site is about becoming a better man. Guys first come here to get help with getting girls. But really it's about becoming the man that girls would want to date. It's not about pickup lines, and nice shirts. It's about becoming curious about the world...developing hobbies, traveling, setting goals and accomplishing them.

I don't want to be a DJ or a Player or a Pimp. I'm an adult...there's no need to label how I live. The goal here is to become a better man who can accept the ups and downs of dating women because he has bigger things going on in his life.
iceberg's got it down. even in the short time that I've been here, what I've realized from the advice given to me by master DJs is always be a MAN.

a man is confident, a man does not hide his sexual nature, a man does not take **** from anyone (esp women), and a man is in control of his life and knows what he wants from it. a man does not bow down to women, become spineless and try to mold himself into what he thinks women like.

so be the MAN and women will come to you. but know that not all of them will come, and not all of them will stay. but that shouldn't matter, because you're a MAN
 
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