Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
iceberg's got it down. even in the short time that I've been here, what I've realized from the advice given to me by master DJs is always be a MAN.Iceberg said:I don't like the idea of working under "cool" internet labels, so I won't tell you what a DJ is or how to become one.
This site is about becoming a better man. Guys first come here to get help with getting girls. But really it's about becoming the man that girls would want to date. It's not about pickup lines, and nice shirts. It's about becoming curious about the world...developing hobbies, traveling, setting goals and accomplishing them.
I don't want to be a DJ or a Player or a Pimp. I'm an adult...there's no need to label how I live. The goal here is to become a better man who can accept the ups and downs of dating women because he has bigger things going on in his life.