"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I wanted to try this. I want every one of you to find a insipiring thread, quote, internet book, link, anything that related to being a Don Juan, self-improvement, meeting girls, having control, life. Try not to be the same as everyone and find a rarer post that you like. (oh! and no quoting yourself!)

I know there's a tip section for a reason. The purpose of this is to dig the gold out from under the masses of posts here, so use that search button, find a topic or two..or more, and post the link and a title with comments :)

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I will now add a few posts that I've liked.
Becoming a True Don Juan - DJBedFord
Must Read - Break Out Of Your Comfort Zone - DJDamage
Must Read - Simple KINO for those who are afraid of touching - Jester
Tips from someone that left the board for a bit - comote
A thread of how to act, By a Girl (read the comments) - DonJuinita
Natural Flowing Conversation - Maurizo
No-Pressure Mindset - Pook Praise - the fool
Girls will NOT make your life better - Santos
Girls and Pressure - VIVAlasVEGASbaby
Improving and enjoying the Foundations of One-Self - jbbrain
How to "Close the Sale" 95% of the time and get that date! - Only the great Master of the Universe

Let's hear some other links to excellent unknown tips from deep within Sosuave and beyond!
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Just one so far, but I like it

Why You Should Not be Scared to Approach: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=88111

The first post in this thread, with a reply by equit, says so much. I hadn't read it before today, but I have already applied the principle to my life, and let me tell you, rejection is not all that bad. Get over that fear, and go for it. In other words, just do it.



Some things I've learned about myself: I need better transitions in conversations (big-time), but I can talk to anyone that I feel like. All in all, it takes practice. I've probably been rejected in the last couple of months than I have in my entire life, but that's because I've probably approached more women than I have in my entire life. With success comes failures, and the only way to learn is to have a couple of failures. Failures is actually a bad term, because you learn something from every approach that you do, about yourself, and about whomever it is that your eye is on. With all that being said, take a look at the topic above, and lose that fear man.
 
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http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16942


A good description of your typical nice guy/ hot girl interaction - you know, the one that ends in LJBF/leave me alone. A good read for newbies.

Time to coin a phrase I think. LMA - leave me alone (an agressive ljbf where she won't even speak to you again).
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Today's Link is a little different. It isn't a thread, but eather, a particular post of immense meaning. Rollo Tomassi deserves a great round of applause for this post.

Ref: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&postid=847756#post847756

Between knowing what needs to be done and actually doing it is a huge gulf - this is the Abyss - and this is what you have to cross. The Chinese have an old proverb that asks "when is the best time to plant a tree? 30 years ago. When is the next best time? Now."

If not now, then when? You've got a laundry list of problems to solve for yourself and in all honesty you know exactly how to solve them. The question isn't 'how', but 'when' will you do this. You've chosen now, so do it.

Your flaws are the result of years of apathy and habitual behavior. You don't need to analyze the source of these, you already know what they are. Don't go back to these sources, don't rewind the same song to hear it again. Remember this:

You will only get what you have gotten if you keep doing what you have done.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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