"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Don Juan Gold Tip Album

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I wanted to try this. I want every one of you to find a insipiring thread, quote, internet book, link, anything that related to being a Don Juan, self-improvement, meeting girls, having control, life. Try not to be the same as everyone and find a rarer post that you like. (oh! and no quoting yourself!)

I know there's a tip section for a reason. The purpose of this is to dig the gold out from under the masses of posts here, so use that search button, find a topic or two..or more, and post the link and a title with comments :)

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I will now add a few posts that I've liked.
Becoming a True Don Juan - DJBedFord
Must Read - Break Out Of Your Comfort Zone - DJDamage
Must Read - Simple KINO for those who are afraid of touching - Jester
Tips from someone that left the board for a bit - comote
A thread of how to act, By a Girl (read the comments) - DonJuinita
Natural Flowing Conversation - Maurizo
No-Pressure Mindset - Pook Praise - the fool
Girls will NOT make your life better - Santos
Girls and Pressure - VIVAlasVEGASbaby
Improving and enjoying the Foundations of One-Self - jbbrain
How to "Close the Sale" 95% of the time and get that date! - Only the great Master of the Universe

Let's hear some other links to excellent unknown tips from deep within Sosuave and beyond!
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The Nice Guy is Gone

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Just one so far, but I like it

Why You Should Not be Scared to Approach: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=88111

The first post in this thread, with a reply by equit, says so much. I hadn't read it before today, but I have already applied the principle to my life, and let me tell you, rejection is not all that bad. Get over that fear, and go for it. In other words, just do it.



Some things I've learned about myself: I need better transitions in conversations (big-time), but I can talk to anyone that I feel like. All in all, it takes practice. I've probably been rejected in the last couple of months than I have in my entire life, but that's because I've probably approached more women than I have in my entire life. With success comes failures, and the only way to learn is to have a couple of failures. Failures is actually a bad term, because you learn something from every approach that you do, about yourself, and about whomever it is that your eye is on. With all that being said, take a look at the topic above, and lose that fear man.
 

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http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16942


A good description of your typical nice guy/ hot girl interaction - you know, the one that ends in LJBF/leave me alone. A good read for newbies.

Time to coin a phrase I think. LMA - leave me alone (an agressive ljbf where she won't even speak to you again).
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Today's Link is a little different. It isn't a thread, but eather, a particular post of immense meaning. Rollo Tomassi deserves a great round of applause for this post.

Ref: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&postid=847756#post847756

Between knowing what needs to be done and actually doing it is a huge gulf - this is the Abyss - and this is what you have to cross. The Chinese have an old proverb that asks "when is the best time to plant a tree? 30 years ago. When is the next best time? Now."

If not now, then when? You've got a laundry list of problems to solve for yourself and in all honesty you know exactly how to solve them. The question isn't 'how', but 'when' will you do this. You've chosen now, so do it.

Your flaws are the result of years of apathy and habitual behavior. You don't need to analyze the source of these, you already know what they are. Don't go back to these sources, don't rewind the same song to hear it again. Remember this:

You will only get what you have gotten if you keep doing what you have done.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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