"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Don Juan Boot Camp. Week #2

Papi Jack

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My count "officially" is 8. I have got more convos but i did not feel that they did the work so i didn't count them.

Friday night i was on fire. I had 2 convos at the restaurant with 2 journalist from mexico and paraguay who were staying in the hotel (my restaurant is inside the Radisson). I could tell they speak spanish so i came up to them. It's funny how it is a lot easier for me to start convos in my own language. I just never thought about it.

After work i went to the mall, after a convo with a lady in sears and a very nice old men in dillard's i walk into a vitamin store and the cashier was a 7.5+ (the + for the smile). The store was empty so we talked for good 8 mins (there was a clock on the wall :D) Could have asked for the number but i didn't feel the vibe, she was just being "naturally" nice but not interested. Overall, nice convo.

Got 2 more convos in the food court. Then i went to a beauty shop and this 50 year old woman say hi. She was real cool and we talked for around 8-9 mins.

By the end of the night i was feeling great.

I have to go but i'll post more details later tonight.

Good work everybody.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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update #2

Well this has been pretty hard for me as others have described but I've been pushing through it as much as time permits me to do so. I'm currently at 5 contacts so far with the 2+ mins.

I can say that I'm starting to feel alot better about approaching people. I'm going to continue to dig things through a couple more days to complete the exercise.

One note was that I approached a coworker that I've always been interested in and started a conversation which turned out really well. I found out that we had alot in common and she's hot as hell...

I'll keep you all posted, we can do this guys!
 

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I'm done finally...birthday party field report

I might as well type this out like a field report because it pretty much is.

I’m finished with week two. I got the rest of my convos done last night at the birthday party that I attended that I mentioned in an earlier post.

The first convo I got was from this dude who rolled with my friend who had the birthday party. He was talking about how he used to party in Oakland and Too $hort would always show up at the spots pimped out. He had some interesting stories to tell about his Oakland days.

The second convo of the evening was from the broad that the dude rolled with, who was huuuuuuuge!!!! I guess he likes the big women. I talked to her shortly, it met the 2 minute criteria easily.

The third convo was this chick I saw on the dance floor. We were talking while we were dancing, she apparently went to the same college I went to. We were hitting it off pretty good but my buddy pulled me to the side and told me she was fat. I guess the alkahol beer goggles were starting to kick in. My main wing and I made an oath for the new year: No fat chicks! He made sure I stuck by the rule.

The fourth convo was with this ese looking dude who said he was a boxer. He was talking about how he doesn’t trip off of black/brown stuff.

I also opened two Hispanic girls standing behind me by waving to them and saying enthusiastically “hi girls!”. They responded back with enthusiasm so I had them engaged. I talked to them briefly and then my wing took over the set. I talked to them for over two minutes but I ran out of things to talk about. If I can just keep the conversations going, I could pull way more girls then I currently do, which is why I’m doing this boot camp in the first place.

Anyway that easily makes 10 convos for the week, here are some other interesting things that happened last night.

I did that enthusiastic “hi girls” approach twice last night. The other time was with this sista I saw standing beside me. She looked at me like I was nuts, hahaha.

I was walking around the dance floor and I see this really tall sista standing with her back on the wall. I stopped turned towards her at an angle and gave her blatant eye contact for about 10 seconds. I then stuck my hand out and beckoned her over. She took my hand and we went off to the dance floor. She left after one song. I’ll need to play around with using a method like this, it’s direct and I can see the potential in it.

I also talked to a group of girls with one of my wings, I don’t remember anything specific about the conversation.
 

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Alright guys, let me start off with me saying I have finished week #2. Cheers to me :)

Before I say anything about my day I want to tell you a few things. One, while you're doing this just let go of yourself. I'm serious, don't think about what you want to do. At most notice something interesting and go up and talk to people. If not, just ask them questions. Two, feel confident. This is a conversation; it's impossible to fail in a conversation. Tell me a time where you were talking to someone and they ****ed up the conversation. That never happens, because anything stupid they say is grounds for MORE conversation. Third, know you can do this. Know that you are better then anything holding your back. Let go.

It was great. I'm telling you if you have never been the talkative type and you go on your days with the same old **** then talking to whoever passes by is great. I feel really good and confident. I feel SO good that when I look in the mirror I can sense the confidence on my reflection. Seriously, it's ****ing incredible. Here's the report, I hope you can find the time to read it. I'm thinking this will be pretty long.

Alright, today a club I was in was hosting a Soccer Tournament. They wanted me to show up to support them. So I agree and wake up and start getting ready. I head out to the field and notice there's quite a few people. I talk to some of my friends and greet a few strangers. Right before the first game is about to start I'm going to get water and notice a girl I know (HBTaken) with another girl (HBDiffEthnic). HBDiffEthnic is an HB8/8.5 and is from another ethnic background then me (somewhat sexy :)). So I'm walking to them and from a distance I wave to HBTaken but I notice that HBDiffEthnic waved back and smiled. So I just go in confidently and talk to both. I start off by asking if their going to play or just support. They tell me that they'll be leaving in a bit because they have to do some stuff. While we're talking I'm leaning back on a big jug of water with my arm on it. They were leaning in and I felt alpha... We also talk about HBDiffEthnic and stuff I don't exactly remember. This was about 3-4 minutes.

So I tell them I need to work on the field and leave them. But before I leave them I tell HBEthnicTaken it was nice meeting her and shake her hand. The only thing I regret is I shook her hand like when I shake a man. I felt stupid because I've read I shouldn't do it like that, but I waved it off like nothing.

So I do some stuff on the field and I start working with a guy. He's part of the club and I don't know him. So I bust on him saying how I would have seen him if he goes to the meetings. Apparently he does. We talk for quite a bit on different things ranging from internships, companies, ethnic backgrounds, and other stuff. This lasts like 4-8 minutes. He's now one more person I know and can freely talk to.

As I'm going to my position I notice a few subs for a team standing close to where I should be standing. Let me give a few details first. This team has unison team shirts (only team that had this) and they were weird colors and a weird mix. The subs right now are 2 girls and 1 guy. I walk up to them (I feel so good I did) and ask them if they actually do compete (in intramurals) together. They joke on how they tried but were late so they signed up for this tournament. I then ask them what's up with the shirts. It turns out the two girls made it last night. I bust on them a little on how they must have had nothing to do. I also tell them it's good because it makes the other team intimidated. One girl starts laughing hysterically saying how thats the same thing she thought. So I ask them if they play soccer and they just play sometimes. I also talk to them a bit more on other stuff I can't remember. There were some stalls but during that time she would cheer there team on and I would watch the game. I also kept pushing that one of them should play and score a bit. That girl was an HB7Soccer. that lasted for about 10 minutes (probably more). I would also talk to some other teammates, but definitly not as much. Then halftime comes up and I go do some stuff. When I am walking back I plan on initiating kino. I just want to walk up to her, hit her on her arm a bit, and tell her she should go play now (she had tripped out of nowhere earlier today). The only thing is I stop because she's on a cell phone. Then she gets off but I don't feel it anymore. So I start talking to subs from another team. I just go up to them and start talking. I dont remember the exact conversation, sorry. But it definitly lasted more then 2 minutes. Then the game ends and I go talk to some friends.

Please note I am talking to my friends and accquantices in a way I didn't normally do. My brother even notices me talking a lot more.

Wow I talked to so many people I actually have to sort this sh1t out. I also know I won't mention a few because I'll be writing a god damn novel.

I also had another opportunity to go and talk to her but I made myself stop because of stupid sh1t. Remember, LET GO. This is the only time I did this.

Okay, I'm skipping a few hours because I talked to people, but don't remember anything I said or how long it was. Some where short some where medium length convos. Some made the 2 minute bracket, others didn't But I don't need to count because so far I've told you about 4 convos so I'm done. I also made accquantices and friends with the people.

But I do want to share one thing else that happened.

The tournament ended, prizes were given out, etc etc. So I'm about to leave and am telling a girl I know (HB8) goodbye (I've known her for a litte more then a year but don't talk to her much). But instead of just saying bye I tell her she did a good job organizing this tournament and that it came out real good. The only this is while I tell her I have my hand on her arm. Earlier in the day I had also given her a thumbs up and a smile when she was dancing for fun (Out of instinct because I was seriously on a high). After I touch her I notice she is looking at me in the eyes more then usual. She also looks at me in the eyes when she is talking to other people. It was great. Kino works, and I know it. I have officially started week #3 today. Wish me the best of luck because I am noticing I will have a lot of fun finding 10 girls to talk to this week. I should probably hit up a social event...hmm I need to find one.

One word to everyone, let's get this done together. Do this for yourself and no one else. Know you are better. We can finish, come on.
 

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I'm done!

I got my last convos tonight at work. It was pretty easy, i didn't suppose to work today but they call me because they needed a host so i came in. That was a good because every single person that comes to the restaurant has to go to the host stand so i had plenty of people to talk with.

I had like 4 convos of 4-5 minutes each. None of them were very interesting but they were good practice. Just one hot babe but she was waiting fo her date.

So... Papi Jack has finished week 2!

One thing i have noticed is how easy EC and Hi's became... after just one week! I guess because compared to starting a convo, hi's are a lot easier.

Like DJLegion said... now i am HIGH on confidence! :D... men it feels great.

NOw, changing subjects.

It's monday again and only 3 guys have finished the exercices... seems that some of you guys have dropped out. :confused:

I got to thank DJLegion and So Many Ways. You guys seem to be comitted to this boot camp what keeps me from drop out. I see you guys butsting your a$$es and that makes me to go out there and get my stuff done.

Thanks and keep up the good work.

For all the others...

Guys, are you in or are you out?

Week #2 has ended.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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