Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
charmest said:Alright. And how should you act with these attention *****s? Shouldn't you neg or demonstrate higher value to them as Mystery tells to do?
I actually meant, if I get a very good and musculous body shape that women will go for me and approach me?
charmest said:What do you mean, it goes rarely against one? How to be higher value and withold it?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Nothing has changed. Attractive women have always been approached, and approached a lot. That's the way nature has it set up. Saying that attractive women don't get approached is one of the biggest lies ever made up.charmest said:In Pickup Artist books, there's told, wonderful women won't get approached. In my opinion, it has changed! They get approached now!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
charmest said:I wrote this thread because it seems as if many guys use pick up techniques. I've noticed that men/boys have even gotten unfriendlier! There is just no harmony any more! ALmost every guy is wearing stylish clother which wasn't the case til mid last year.
My biggest fear is if there'll remain any (hot) girls/women for me or not. Until April last year, I was approached my women. I liked it so I could hope to get approached any time. I fear, this won't happen any more any time.
Currently, I have no success with gorgeous women. The ugly ones seem sometimes attracted to me or the older ones. Maybe, because I'm overweight right now. But in April, I was approached by a great looking and educated woman.
Pook meant, the greater your body is, the better your chances will get and hot women will approach you!
I'll stick with this idea!
Until 2009, I thought no woman would want me. I was bullied in school almost every time. A guy told, it'd be wrong to think like this. He recommended me "Double Your Dating". I approached with the help of "Rules of the Game"
In those times, I was one of the less people who approached women in daytime. Now, it has changed. Women have higher demands in men.
I think, everything will become now as if it was in my childhood and I was bullied. From 2009 on, I had even light success at women who were out of my league (like HB9).
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.