penkitten
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http://www.theguardian.com/society/2010/sep/05/men-victims-domestic-violence. How many members do we have that are now or have been victims of domestic violence?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Domestic violence article
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
YawataNoKami
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I am sorry , "verbal" or "emotional" abuse ..........that's bull. And I am not talking about kids , talking about adults.
NSX-R
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As much as i hate hitting women , if one wants me to treat her as a man , I'll do it.
In life you get treated always as you want to.
In life you get treated always as you want to.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
icantgetlaid
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when you let a woman in she will learn all of your vulnerabilities and whats buttons to push...and if she's twisted enough that will be all she needs to chop you down/verbally/emotionally demoralize your soul.
i'd take a classic fist-beating over that kind of abuse any day.
don't let her in then right? for some it's too late ... (blue pillers)
i'd take a classic fist-beating over that kind of abuse any day.
don't let her in then right? for some it's too late ... (blue pillers)
penkitten
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Are you saying that you were taught to stand up for yourself and basically you would tell someone to bite your ass or hig the curb?I am sorry , "verbal" or "emotional" abuse ..........that's bull. And I am not talking about kids , talking about adults.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
Like the saying "if a woman wants to wear a man's shoes"?
penkitten
Master Don Juan
I think this site needs a devoted thread for advice and support on this particular topic. Where they can be encouraged to leave a bad situation. Men don't come forward enough on this issue.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
This is the perfect example of abuse. Thank you for sharing it. A grown man doesn't need permission to eat his own pie.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
CuddleJunkie
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that's a really good idea.
NSX-R
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I'm sure many people misunderstood what i really meant.
If a guy attacks me by using violence ,I'll respond with violence as a last resort if things don't go better.
For example ,2 weeks ago , i went to pick up somebody else's gf . When the guy noticed he tried to attack me by using violence. I didn't respond and i proved the winner in the end cause i got his chick's number(Getting the number means nothing but that's another story) and didn't kicked out of the club.
What i want to say is that you have to analyse deeply the situation before move into violence and without experience on it ,it's not so easy to make good judgements. In my case ,my parents own a Pub and I've been in many situations to know when violence is needed.
As i said, i believe violence should never be an option but in some cases ,it's a requirement.
This is for both women and men.
YawataNoKami
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Maybe because I was born and raised in a little town of Puerto Rico , different ways I guess.My father was and still the head of the house,same with my uncles.My mother never expect my father do the dishes , my father never expect my mother paint the house.
The point is if anyone ;men or women ; attack me I will responded with greater force. Been in a lot of fights in my youth and let me tell you something , in a real fight the goal is to eliminate the threat as fast as you can. Words only hurt if you let them.penkitten thats a great idea.
The point is if anyone ;men or women ; attack me I will responded with greater force. Been in a lot of fights in my youth and let me tell you something , in a real fight the goal is to eliminate the threat as fast as you can. Words only hurt if you let them.penkitten thats a great idea.
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Domestic violence can take place in many forms. From economic to emotional. Just because it doesn't involve a black eye doesn't mean it doesn't have a serious effect. There are a lot of different scenarios where it seriously affects men but they don't have the same vast amount of resources that females have.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
CuddleJunkie
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yeah. Scarcity mentality is only increased if you are constantly being reminded of how much of a low value man you are. It's basic manipulation, you make the other person feel like **** while convincing him/her that you are his/her only option.
penkitten
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We raise our sons and teach them not to hit women. We may not realize we need to teach them not to continue a relationship with someone that hits them. Or verbally attacks them. And now the time has come that we must. Women are able to get lots of support and help but for men, there is little. One reason is pride so they keep it to themselves and another is without proof you aren't seen as a victim. Men are supposed to big bigger and tougher but in reality many big manly men still endure being mistreated. And what happens when a young man can take no more being slapped around? If he hits back, he is the one that ends up arrested. That is why we must form a support group even if we just sticky the thread for people to find it.
Bible_Belt
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Yelling is domestic violence in California. It's hard for me to remember many relationships where I was not guilty of yelling a time or two.
As far as physical violence goes, yes there are bad men who beat up women. But what we'll never admit is that there are also bad women with psychological problems who will do everything they can to goad a good man into beating them.
As far as physical violence goes, yes there are bad men who beat up women. But what we'll never admit is that there are also bad women with psychological problems who will do everything they can to goad a good man into beating them.
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Check out this video: http://twitter.com/missnkay/status/598578140814954497/video/1
Domestic violence by women is REAL but society just doesn't recognize it.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.