"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Does your job matter?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
so i would say getting a job is vital for your relationship
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
sure it does...
come on you dont want a phone sex babe and you dont want a chick that is never going to advance any further at her job than from fry girl to cashier girl.
themanwithnoname
Senior Don Juan
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
strids97
Don Juan
If you meet a girl and she wants to know how much money you make, well thats not a good thing...If you are happy with your life and enjoy your job, thats what matters. There are so many people out there that hate there jobs eventhough they make a crap load...but someone who doesn't enjoy what they do, actually brings more stress to a relationship. It shouldn't matter how much you make...a girl needs to like you for who you are not for how much money you make...if she cares about your money, you won't have it...trust me i've learned the hardway!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
themanwithnoname
Senior Don Juan
themanwithnoname
Senior Don Juan
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
Not necessarily true. If a woman asks you how much you make you might have a gold digger on your hands. I would never answer such a question.
But if a woman simply inquires if you simply have a full time job or not (perhaps even what you do, but not asking about your income) and you're in your late 20s or beyond, than thats a valid question. Afterall as later years set in they are looking for a provider.
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Hey, haha 30 k a year is very good dough to some people, but ah, i wouldnt let that get in the way...
for instance,
i drove a geo metro....piece of crap trust me
no job...
live with parents...
and still i think i got the don juan magic, i can get laid anytime i want (I have three girls in rotation), im confident that i can get at least 3 numbers a nite...
like master p said...its not where ya from, its how ya come...
imagine if i had a job...a nice car...hmmm..i wonder.........
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
>>>FAST FORWARD>>>
"Gold digger?" "Looking for a provider?" Excuse me, isn't that one in the same?????
Scary huh???
al77
Master Don Juan
Why would a guy worry about what she does for a living?
She is not going to be a provider for their family or for him, therefore it doesnt matter what she does.
if girls care about you having a job, then what a shame. all i care about is the person, not if they have a job. i guess it depends on how long you have been with the person and if you're living together... you'll need a job to pay the bills, etc.
but yes, alot of women judge us by what job we have. or if we have one at all. those kinda women are the b|tches.
Abbott
Master Don Juan
I rarely, almost never ask people about their jobs. Why? Because most of the time, if you ask someone something, they're likely to ask the same question back.
I get uneasy whenever someone asks me because my frank and honest answer is that I'm unemployed (I get money from my parents and that's how I pay my bills).I wouldn't be surprised if this causes them to feel resentment, because they may be thinking "Why do I have to work and he doesn't?"
I know one girl asked me what I did for a living. I told her the truth, and I could tell she didn't like the answer much. Next time someone asks me, I might try to be funny (i.e. "can't tell you, that's a secret" or "if I tell you I'd have to kill you, and that would be a damn shame").
No earned income, I drive a pickup truck, I live with Mom and Dad, and I have no women. Go figure.
Needless to say, I make a point to avoid talking about how I make my money (because I don't), what car I drive (since it sucks), or my living situation.
Ben
P.S. For the record, I am trying to figure out a source of income. I only say this so you guys won't hate me too.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
Some of you would be assed out of your father decided he was going to quit his job because it was too stressful.
Now, it's an extreme plus if you can love what you do, trust me, being misable at work is nothign like not having food on the table, struggling to pay bills, etc.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.