"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Does this work for flakes?

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Just hypothetically...no specific girl here...if a girl flakes on you/says she's busy for a second or third time but you think she miiight still be interested, could you say something like

Her: Omg your going to kill me...i can't make it tonight cause ____. sorryy!! maybe sometime next week? :)
You: Okay, but I'm leaving the next move up to you :) I don't have time to waste chasing after little girls. ;)
Her: hah okay :p
*no further contact unless she contacts you*

Would that work? You're dhv'ing and forcing her to pursue you, while making sure she knows you won't play her games. ...right? I'm sorta new at this.

...and yes, I suppose you could just assume she'll text later if she's interested...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It won't work unless her interest level was through the roof. Also if it were through the roof to begin with she wouldn't be flaking.

C+F like that only works if you know the girls into you. Coming off like that, you just sound like an a$$hole and she probably won't care because she has more important things to do.

Instead of that you should have just immediately offered another time for next week and depending on her response, you'd know whether or not she was playing games/stringing you along or digs you and wants to hang out.
 
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