"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Does the good physique help us to attract women?

RRRR9999

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Do women really attract the men who are having good physique.??
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mr Wright

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I see it this way, if you dont have the abs and the pecs you wont get marked down. But if you do have them you can get marked up, it helps but its not the be all and end all. Even though I have nagged free stuff by showing my stomach ;)
 

Die Hard

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Since I've become muscular, attraction from girls has increased SIGNIFICANTLY.
 

PDubb75

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RRRR9999 said:
@Die Hard
thnx :) I will go to gym then :)
Get in shape for yourself, not for women. Do it because it's the healthy thing to do. If you simply do it for aesthetics, you probably won't get proper workouts, or be as consistent (meaning, stopping just because you start getting some girls).

Let women be a side effect of your improved health/physical well-being.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Iceberg

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Feeding the troll
 

thedude4242

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some women could care less if a guy has abs and huge muscles. infact the clubs and stuff I go to the steroids guys do not get too much love. I am in shape but I do not even have a flat stomach or abs. but I am in shape and athletic.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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thedude4242 said:
I am in shape but I do not even have a flat stomach or abs.
That is an anomaly. Abdominal fat is the unhealthiest kind. If you have a gut you are not in shape.
 

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I think if you have a good body, muscles etc, it helps women rationalise why they feel attracted to u. They're prob attracted to you coz of ur game/personality/confidence, but they don't know that, they'll think its coz ur good looking etc
 

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bigneil said:
That is an anomaly. Abdominal fat is the unhealthiest kind. If you have a gut you are not in shape.
That only counts for women.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Tesl

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bigneil said:
That is an anomaly. Abdominal fat is the unhealthiest kind. If you have a gut you are not in shape.
Depends on your definition of "in shape", but a person can be healthy without having a completely flat stomach.

Also, care to elabaroate on why abdominal fat is apparently the worst kind? I don't see anything special about it
 

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Does Toyota manufacture cars?
Is Barack Obama the current president?
Is NBC a Television Network?
Is Super Mario Bros. 3 a video game?

God damn.

Case closed.
 

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I used to be skinny, then I got muscular, now I have a beer gut.

I didn't feel like going back to the gym, so I got GLUTTONY tattooed on my gut.

Don't get as many girls as when I was in shape, but still get way more than when I was skinny.
 

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Almost all of the guys I know that have a ripped physique are terrible with women. I know one bodybuilder who enters in local competitions all the time and usually wins, yet he doesn't pull in hotties. He's one of the most insecure people I know. Another guy I went to high school with. He was real skinny, then starting going to the gym for 3 years straight. He's got a nice 6 pack, decent sized arms, etc. His skills are the same as they were before he started lifting.

The one thing that those two guys have in common, along with pretty much every other guy that lives in the gym, is that they're incredibly insecure and are trying to compensate. They're in the same situation as the guys in this forum that frequent the gym. Either they're extremely skinny, short, or ignored by girls in their life. The first thing they think is "I gotta get ripped." They can't even open their mouths to talk to a girl, yet they think pumping iron is going to solve their problems... and of course it doesn't.

90% of the hot girls I see are with skinny guys that have a good-looking face.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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