"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Does the dynamic change?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
At 34 you haven't even gotten into your stride!
Thanks,
I wanted to say in General as I did the other week talk to two women in their early 20s, I was self assured and spoke very nice and I think my communication skills were the key.
I was asking in general.
If I get rid of the insecurity?
Doctor Europeo
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Im not sure what you consider youth life but you can always have women at any age.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I meant many men in their 20s have, go out with women, clubs, theme parks etc
Can the same dynamic apply to a male nearing mid 30s?
BoomToTheMoonAlice
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I was going out to clubs 3 nights a week until I was 35. If you can dance, the dance-floor is a free gymnasium. I'd still be doing it today but when you get older sleep starts to become preferable to hanging out with a bunch of wannabes.
BoomToTheMoonAlice
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You win, I can't show you my exact videos because I teach children and I can't have a pickup website associated to my name but my style is a combination of these:Show me your moves, this is me doing some praccy. I challenge you.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8bOrs7mfiGU
If you're ever in the neighborhood we'll hang out.
BoomToTheMoonAlice
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It's the same for latin music for me. I embarrassed the hell out of myself in a forhor club in Brazil, guys stole my date and everything. I looked like Steve Martin in The Jerk.
Plinco
Master Don Juan
This is a mindset issue. If you think you're not good enough, you won't be.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Why are you hesitant? Fear of rejection?
What should the mindset be?
The other week I got talking to two younger women in the early 20s, I was confident, came across that and spoke very well
I'm sure Chris Evans is dating someone 15 years his younger when he's in his early 40s
Plinco
Master Don Juan
Love thy self. The correct mindset is controlling yourself, but also being selfish.
logicallefty
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taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
Asking a bunch of incels for permission to pursue women is generally not an attractive trait.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.