Well, I was reading up one of my old, old threads, and almost everyone said that I should smile in that topic, but doesn't smiling make you look gay? I don't want to go around approaching girls, looking like a fruit or anything.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Ah, I see, so it's not gay. But should you go around smiling all the time or should you smile only at certain moments?ValleyDJing said:hell no, smiling doesn't make you look gay, unless you do it wrong. show teeth definitely and make it sort of a crooked smile but a big one. the crooked smile makes you look sly you know? try to keep your eyes under control...relax them you know what i mean?
-officialValleyDj
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Half smile, what exactly does that look like?Half a smile is better.
I didn't ask whether or not it was good or not, I already know that it's good, I asked if it makes you look gay and now, I know the answer. Besides, even if it does make me look gay, what do I care what those other guys think? Women still love it and I'll still probably be getting more girls than them, with my "gay" smile. Long as I don't look like a total fruitloop. A lot of people say it's not cool for a black guy to smile, but they're only saying that to cover up their own insecurities.delete this thread
cant belive you have to ask if its good to smile or not
smile = happy = self confidence = girls take note = win
I actually don't, or I wouldn't of asked it.Docs said:Viper, what the hell is with asking this question?
You already know the goddamn answer.
don't use those smiles, they look scary, not charmingNighthawk said:
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Morphiex said:nooo smiling does make you look gay ,
the way to aproach a girl , is to never smile keep a frown on your face ,
make it look like your gonan hit her , be mad as hell ....
then you walk really fast to her , and yell at her .... thats the only way to get girls... nothing else works....
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That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.