Well, I was reading up one of my old, old threads, and almost everyone said that I should smile in that topic, but doesn't smiling make you look gay? I don't want to go around approaching girls, looking like a fruit or anything.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Ah, I see, so it's not gay. But should you go around smiling all the time or should you smile only at certain moments?ValleyDJing said:hell no, smiling doesn't make you look gay, unless you do it wrong. show teeth definitely and make it sort of a crooked smile but a big one. the crooked smile makes you look sly you know? try to keep your eyes under control...relax them you know what i mean?
-officialValleyDj
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Half smile, what exactly does that look like?Half a smile is better.
I didn't ask whether or not it was good or not, I already know that it's good, I asked if it makes you look gay and now, I know the answer. Besides, even if it does make me look gay, what do I care what those other guys think? Women still love it and I'll still probably be getting more girls than them, with my "gay" smile. Long as I don't look like a total fruitloop. A lot of people say it's not cool for a black guy to smile, but they're only saying that to cover up their own insecurities.delete this thread
cant belive you have to ask if its good to smile or not
smile = happy = self confidence = girls take note = win
I actually don't, or I wouldn't of asked it.Docs said:Viper, what the hell is with asking this question?
You already know the goddamn answer.
don't use those smiles, they look scary, not charmingNighthawk said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Morphiex said:nooo smiling does make you look gay ,
the way to aproach a girl , is to never smile keep a frown on your face ,
make it look like your gonan hit her , be mad as hell ....
then you walk really fast to her , and yell at her .... thats the only way to get girls... nothing else works....
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.