Does Size Matter?

[Foe]

Saw some guy on tik tok sprout some kind of wisdom. Like most things that attract woman its about how intimidating you are to other men, if your bigger, stronger, more confident, better wage, bigger D, etc etc. All of these count. Theres something inherently satisfying knowing you have a bigger D then the average joe, it's a confidence, a sparkle in your eye and knowledge you have been deeper then others before you. It all adds up and they can tell. Big D energy I think they call it. I presume its the opposite for the smaller guys.

 

[saige]

From a woman, I have to agree with the other female perspectives—it’s definitely more about how you use it, not the size.

My boyfriend is actually a bit on the bigger side for me and it makes certain positions really uncomfortable. It doesn’t matter to me because he’s attentive and makes sure I’m prepared. A “good fit” differentiates with every women so don’t worry about it—you can’t control that.

True passion and lust is one of the biggest turn ons, trust me on this! It will override any insecurities about size. If you show a woman genuine desire in the bedroom and verbalize that, it will make her experience unforgettable.

 

[MatureDJ]

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That figure looks like a lunar lander.

 

[MatureDJ]

I've always heard it's more the girth than the length.

Circumferential girth is the only way I join the 6-club.

 

[MatureDJ]

We matched several years ago, and the conversation was going in a sexual direction, so she stopped me and asked me how big it was, saying she has a requirement of 8 inches or more. I told her that while I'm well-endowed, I'm not quite THAT well-endowed. She apologized, said that we should not meet then, and unmatched me.

BRUTAL!

 

[MatureDJ]

It doesn't hurt unless it's so big that women are scared of it.

Just 17 Stories About Encounters With Really Big Penises

“He was a big penis with a big penis.”

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[BPH]

BRUTAL!

Everyone's allowed to have their preferences - even if they're ridiculous.

 

[zekko]

Saw some guy on tik tok sprout some kind of wisdom. Like most things that attract woman its about how intimidating you are to other men,

This is something I've always thought makes sense. It matches a video that somebody posted here not long ago. It basically consisted of some girls on the beach talking about who attracted them, and who didn't. They talked about some weak looking guys, and they said they couldn't feel like they could protect them if they had to.

It's not that big of a trick for a guy to dominate a woman (which is where a lot of PUA theory likes to take you). But for a guy to be able to dominate other guys, then you're showing yourself to be in the upper percentile. Not that I'm recommending you go around bullying people, I'm just speaking about primal biological survival urges.

 

[Vanderdonck]

Some things to keep in mind:

Most women are not good spot measurers. The number of women who claim to have been with 8+ inchers is statistically unlikely.

They will also inflate the size of a good lover and degrade the size of a guy who scorned them.

Have heard the same about girth. But I think if there's attraction most women will be pleased with great sex. I mean I've banged women of many different body types, if they're good in bed and turn me on that's what matters.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I'm sure it matters, but in most cases, I'd wager that not having that expectation met/exceeded is more of a disappointment than a complete dealbreaker.

I've never had complaints aside from one specific girl off Bumble.

We matched several years ago, and the conversation was going in a sexual direction, so she stopped me and asked me how big it was, saying she has a requirement of 8 inches or more. I told her that while I'm well-endowed, I'm not quite THAT well-endowed. She apologized, said that we should not meet then, and unmatched me.

More recently (maybe a year or so ago), she showed up in my feed again, and we matched again. I told her I was surprised she swiped right since I didn't meet her requirement last time, to which she told me that she was attracted enough to me to be more lenient. We went out for some drinks, things went well, and she ended up sucking my d*** in her car.

Later on, when I tried to set up another date so we had somewhere to f*** she told me that she thought she could be lenient, but that she really just needs 8 inches...and again apologized for wasting my time.

For context, this isn't like a big girl with a massive a** or something - she was probably 5'9", maybe 120lbs. I did a quick Google search, and it seems in the USA, based on self-reported data, only about 2% of men are packing 8 inches or more - and that's before you consider whether the person attached to it has anything to be attracted to.

So yes, there definitely are ridiculous women at the extreme end of the spectrum on this.

I met a girl on Tinder. After we did the deed, she told me: ‘When I first saw you, I was concerned because you were a little shorter than I expected. But I saw you have big hands and I figured it’s probably fine.”

 

[Sega Genesis]

From a woman, I have to agree with the other female perspectives—it’s definitely more about how you use it, not the size.

Hi saige I didn't actually say that, @BeExcellent did.

I said it was both size and motion (how he uses it).... and to add -- our connection.

It's funny this exact same discussion is currently happening on another forum and so I will ask you the same question I asked a woman on that forum. Here's the post.

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>>Are you saying if your current enormous guy was 2-3 inches hard, you'd be okay with that because of your connection? (Or as you said saige, how he uses it?).

That's a rhetorical question, imo it's BOTH. Size and connection.

Or rather it's actually threefold - connection, size and "motion of the ocean" or whatever that saying is.

It's all tied together that makes us a great match! A great "fit."

Whether it's large or small. And I've had 'too large' and it was not enjoyable at all!

I've also experienced very small and that wasn't enjoyable either no matter how deep our connection or 'how he used it."

Just like with the emotional connection, it's how we 'fit' together which does include size imo.

It matters, how could it not?<<

End of post... again jmo.

 

[saige]

Hi saige I didn't actually say that, @BeExcellent did.

I said it was both size and motion (how he uses it).... and to add -- our connection.

Hi, thank you clarifying! Anyways, I stand by what I said: his skill in the bedroom (which I measure by how wanted he makes me feel) and the motion override my preferences on size.

Sure, as women we might all prefer a certain size. For me that's a personal number, not too big or small, and it would vary between all of us.

>>Are you saying if your current enormous guy was 2-3 inches hard, you'd be okay with that because of your connection? (Or as you said saige, how he uses it?).

The answer is not as simple as "yes" or "no" just based on that question, I'd have to take in account everything else. I agree with you that it's a rhetorical question. And actually, as I've mentioned before, my boyfriend and I aren't the "perfect" fit, he's a bit too large which can hurt if you're not prepared. So what? We still make it work, I'm sure it would be the same case if he was too small for me, because he knows how to make me feel good regardless.

 

[MatureDJ]

I met a girl on Tinder. After we did the deed, she told me: ‘When I first saw you, I was concerned because you were a little shorter than I expected. But I saw you have big hands and I figured it’s probably fine.”

It's OVER for LittleHandCels.

 

[Sega Genesis]

The answer is not as simple as "yes" or "no" just based on that question, I'd have to take in account everything else. I agree with you that it's a rhetorical question. And actually, as I've mentioned before, my boyfriend and I aren't the "perfect" fit, he's a bit too large which can hurt if you're not prepared. So what? We still make it work, I'm sure it would be the same case if he was too small for me, because he knows how to make me feel good regardless.

Totally get this^^ saige but and this is just how I personally view it.. size still matters in some form or fashion, reason being...

It's the difference between having a man be a perfect fit and having sex be essentially effortless in that regard and...

A man not being a good fit - whether a bit too large in your case (or too small) and having to
expend extra effort to "make it work" (as you said) and consciously make adjustments (so it doesn't hurt etc).... due to our strong connection and desire to be together.

I've done it too! Due to our connection and desire to be together however if I'm honest I found it somewhat distracting and it took away from the experience.

I'd rather us be a perfect fit and have that not be a concern... that's all I was trying to say.

So in that regard size does matter, again my opinion.

We can agree to disagree though and happy that you're happy in your relationship!

 

[Hal9000]

My experience has been that while there are definitely some size queens out there, the vast majority of women will be content will an average sized penis. Having said that, you need to be at least in the ballpark of average sized because women pretty universally loathe men with micropenises and will talk all kinds of #### about the men who have them. I've always advised men, regardless of penis size, to become proficient at oral as that has proven again and again to be the single thing that a woman will want to come back for more to experience since a very small percentage of men seem to make the cut in that area. So if you are worried about your penis size, just work on your oral skills and you'll still be ahead of most guys.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Penis size generally is a male obsession as its believed that " the bigger it is the more pleasurable it is for the woman"

I've been with enough women to know for the vast majority of women the opposite is true

Why !?! because its painful !

You will have some size queens who want the big D but if she's a size queen and praising you, you don't wanna know how many she's sampled before you

It's also extremely difficult for women to get orgasms from PIV sex , usually she is going to get off faster with oral or fingering

Its cringe when you have grown men thinking they need to d1ck measure

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Ultimately a fruitless discussion. If you have a big dvck, you already know how women feel about it. If you don’t, there’s no way of getting a bigger one, so why bother talking about it?

 

[darksprezzatura]

It matters

 

[Plinco]

Hmmmm. Thoughts from the old lady:

Old saying: Its not the size of the ship, but rather the motion of the ocean that matters.

Being a skillful lover is more valuable than certain measurements.....

Vaginas vary in depth too. Some deeper, some not as deep. There is such a thing as too long because it gets pokey in certain positions if your length is greater than her depth.

I appreciate a great fit. Enough girth to be snug, enough length to satisfy but not be painful or poke. That will all vary from couple to couple.

So I'd say size matters but not in the way men typically * think * it matters. What matters most is if she enjoys you as a person. You have the physiology you have. The right girl isn't going to throw away a great guy over empirical dimensions....but a great fit is a nice bonus.

Just saying.

I can concur on the other end of this. I had one woman who had a vaginal canal short enough that I was poking her cervix, and it was painful for her; we had to try different positions so that I wouldn't go too deep. Other women I've been with felt like a really good fit, and it was really noticeably enjoyable for both of us.

Poking a woman's cervix can also be really pleasurable for her though. It depends on the woman (I've had that experience too).

 

[Bokanovsky]

I'm slightly longer than average and there have been a few that commented positively.

I've always found it curious that there seems to be a very large number of men who are "slightly longer than average" and virtually no one who is slightly shorter than average But I digress...

Size matters to an extent but it's not nearly as big of a deal (no pun intended) as some people think. As long as you fall within the standard deviation (i.e. you are not significantly smaller or larger than average), you should be fine. Of course, it also depends on the internal dimension of you paramour (the expression "throwing a hot dog down the hallway" comes to mind).