The Duke
Master Don Juan
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I've got this 36yo girl HB9 that I dated for 4months this past spring/summer. Our relationship ended about 3months ago and we never contacted each other during that time. She contacted me earlier this week and would like to have "something" with me.
Let me give you a little background on our past:
-Great chemistry.
-Shes a single mom, totally into her kids.
-We got along great.
-I was totally into this girl.
-She was into me slightly less than I was her.
Basically our relationship ended because she decided I was too good for her and she wasn't deserving of me, was still dealing with the pain from her cancer and wasn't cancer free yet and didn't want to burden me, she had to deal with her ex over custody of the kids. Her emotional/physical/mental plate was FULL. She didn't have the energy to devote to a significant man in her life.
At the point where we ended our 4month relationship she basically wanted to be friends. I said "HELL NO" its all or nothing thats what they make gay men for. I made it perfectly clear that I didn't want anything to do with her if we were just "friends". I doubt she has forgotten it lol. I pretty much tore her ass a knew one when I let her know. A few weeks following the breakup she contacted me again and I told her to get lost because I thought she was trying to get on the "friend" bandwagon again. Who knows maybe she wasn't.
Now she has several of her personal issues put to bed and has contacted me. I don't know if she wants to be friends or more. I don't like living in limbo of not knowing. Makes me anxious and patience isn't my strong point.
She struggles with what God thinks about relationships and what she has done in the past. She is a little old school when it comes to dating.
She keeps saying she wants to talk about "us". She's asked me if I am seeing anybody. She's said she doesn't want to leap into anything. She still cries when she hears our songs on the radio. She says she could never stop thinking of me. blah blah blah. lol.
This girl has made some bad choices in regards to relationships in her past. She has been hurt because of her bad choices. I think she has learned her lesson and is trying to do it right this time around.
My gut tells me she wants to build a friendship with the possibility of a relationship as the end result. If the relationship is the end goal then I'm all about taking whatever time is required. No way am I interested in just being friends as the final outcome. I don't care to be "Just" friends with any woman.
Her and I definitely need to sit down and have a long discussion. But I don't want to set my self up for failure either.
Any advice would be great. I have dated way too many women in my life and this is one of those that stands out from the rest. Have any of you guys been in a similar position? What the hell should I do?
Let me give you a little background on our past:
-Great chemistry.
-Shes a single mom, totally into her kids.
-We got along great.
-I was totally into this girl.
-She was into me slightly less than I was her.
Basically our relationship ended because she decided I was too good for her and she wasn't deserving of me, was still dealing with the pain from her cancer and wasn't cancer free yet and didn't want to burden me, she had to deal with her ex over custody of the kids. Her emotional/physical/mental plate was FULL. She didn't have the energy to devote to a significant man in her life.
At the point where we ended our 4month relationship she basically wanted to be friends. I said "HELL NO" its all or nothing thats what they make gay men for. I made it perfectly clear that I didn't want anything to do with her if we were just "friends". I doubt she has forgotten it lol. I pretty much tore her ass a knew one when I let her know. A few weeks following the breakup she contacted me again and I told her to get lost because I thought she was trying to get on the "friend" bandwagon again. Who knows maybe she wasn't.
Now she has several of her personal issues put to bed and has contacted me. I don't know if she wants to be friends or more. I don't like living in limbo of not knowing. Makes me anxious and patience isn't my strong point.
She struggles with what God thinks about relationships and what she has done in the past. She is a little old school when it comes to dating.
She keeps saying she wants to talk about "us". She's asked me if I am seeing anybody. She's said she doesn't want to leap into anything. She still cries when she hears our songs on the radio. She says she could never stop thinking of me. blah blah blah. lol.
This girl has made some bad choices in regards to relationships in her past. She has been hurt because of her bad choices. I think she has learned her lesson and is trying to do it right this time around.
My gut tells me she wants to build a friendship with the possibility of a relationship as the end result. If the relationship is the end goal then I'm all about taking whatever time is required. No way am I interested in just being friends as the final outcome. I don't care to be "Just" friends with any woman.
Her and I definitely need to sit down and have a long discussion. But I don't want to set my self up for failure either.
Any advice would be great. I have dated way too many women in my life and this is one of those that stands out from the rest. Have any of you guys been in a similar position? What the hell should I do?
