Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Does she like me, or not?

smoofle

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So there's this girl I know that I've had a crush on for quite some time. And, a month ago I could have sworn she liked me, but now I'm not too sure. She's hot, pretty much every guy who's seen her has hit on her and thought she was a babe. But, she's never had a bf before.

Here's why I think she likes me:
- We talk for hours at a time...no awkward pauses or anything...i make her laugh a hella lot
- She always laughs and says, "you're so mean!" and smacks me (she does that to some other people too though)
- she always comes up and starts talking to me, not vice versa
- last party i went to with her, i found her looking at me quite often...it could have just been her seeing if i was checking her out again, who knows? :p

Why she might not:
- Her school doesn't have school dances, and the first one she went to i was there. I asked her for a slow dance, and she declined...saying she didn't know how to dance. On the last song, a friend...i dunno hooked her up or something and got her to to dance with a friend of mine (right in front of me) she logs on aim that night and sends me an offline message apologizing that she didn't dance with me because she didn't know how to dance.
- whenever we hang out, i drive her home and she kinda opens her door, walks in and waves me good night.

I'm thinking right now that I might just be a good friend to her...in which case, what should i do? Ganji? I don't have much time...maybe 3 months before I leave for college (she's a junior next year)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Upthere

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smoofle said:
Why she might not:
- Her school doesn't have school dances, and the first one she went to i was there. I asked her for a slow dance, and she declined...saying she didn't know how to dance. On the last song, a friend...i dunno hooked her up or something and got her to to dance with a friend of mine (right in front of me) she logs on aim that night and sends me an offline message apologizing that she didn't dance with me because she didn't know how to dance.
I think you should have called her out on this. Anyone agree?
I can't tell if she likes you. I am in no place to tell as I am very new to this
 

smooth guy

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There are a few signs there that could mean there is some sort of interest. Way to find out...make a move, ask her out.
 

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When she gets out of the car, use a c and f line like "Oh I see how it is, don't want to get too attached huh? That's cool."
 

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Try to kiss her. There is no other way.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Well her dancing with another guy instead of you seems a little off. Maybe she's trying to make you jealous and see how u react. There does seem to be some signs of interest. But, you could be in the friend zone. You could ask her on a date and see how it goes or make a move on her. Then, you will know for sure.

If you can post more signs of intrests and non intrest we might be able to get a better understanding.
 
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