"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

Does she like me, or not?

smoofle

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 1, 2007
Messages
18
Reaction score
0
So there's this girl I know that I've had a crush on for quite some time. And, a month ago I could have sworn she liked me, but now I'm not too sure. She's hot, pretty much every guy who's seen her has hit on her and thought she was a babe. But, she's never had a bf before.

Here's why I think she likes me:
- We talk for hours at a time...no awkward pauses or anything...i make her laugh a hella lot
- She always laughs and says, "you're so mean!" and smacks me (she does that to some other people too though)
- she always comes up and starts talking to me, not vice versa
- last party i went to with her, i found her looking at me quite often...it could have just been her seeing if i was checking her out again, who knows? :p

Why she might not:
- Her school doesn't have school dances, and the first one she went to i was there. I asked her for a slow dance, and she declined...saying she didn't know how to dance. On the last song, a friend...i dunno hooked her up or something and got her to to dance with a friend of mine (right in front of me) she logs on aim that night and sends me an offline message apologizing that she didn't dance with me because she didn't know how to dance.
- whenever we hang out, i drive her home and she kinda opens her door, walks in and waves me good night.

I'm thinking right now that I might just be a good friend to her...in which case, what should i do? Ganji? I don't have much time...maybe 3 months before I leave for college (she's a junior next year)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

Upthere

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 28, 2007
Messages
49
Reaction score
0
smoofle said:
Why she might not:
- Her school doesn't have school dances, and the first one she went to i was there. I asked her for a slow dance, and she declined...saying she didn't know how to dance. On the last song, a friend...i dunno hooked her up or something and got her to to dance with a friend of mine (right in front of me) she logs on aim that night and sends me an offline message apologizing that she didn't dance with me because she didn't know how to dance.
I think you should have called her out on this. Anyone agree?
I can't tell if she likes you. I am in no place to tell as I am very new to this
 

smooth guy

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Apr 15, 2007
Messages
306
Reaction score
3
There are a few signs there that could mean there is some sort of interest. Way to find out...make a move, ask her out.
 

SenorSuave

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 10, 2007
Messages
93
Reaction score
1
Location
New York
When she gets out of the car, use a c and f line like "Oh I see how it is, don't want to get too attached huh? That's cool."
 

Infraction

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 30, 2007
Messages
131
Reaction score
0
Try to kiss her. There is no other way.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

I.A.F.Y.B.

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 18, 2007
Messages
2,051
Reaction score
21
Location
USA
Well her dancing with another guy instead of you seems a little off. Maybe she's trying to make you jealous and see how u react. There does seem to be some signs of interest. But, you could be in the friend zone. You could ask her on a date and see how it goes or make a move on her. Then, you will know for sure.

If you can post more signs of intrests and non intrest we might be able to get a better understanding.
 
Top