"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Does sex too soon ever actually decrease in women the potential for a longer relationship?

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In men it can make a girl look too easy to be taken seriously as longer-term potential

But what about in women, is there any chance it could make her see you only sexually? Or is her attraction going to be too high for that to matter, and you can have her stick around regardless?

Since a lot of girls have a kind of fantasy about the way things should be and should progress, can that mess up her image of what a relationship should look like, and you'll be stuck in the FWB zone?

Or also, if you're the first one to break her defenses of banging too soon, maybe it can reinforce that in her mind and make her become more of a slut than she used to be
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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TheGambino

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That's sh1t. F*ck her as soon as you can. If she f*cks you she already made up her mind that your attractive. Let HER worry about LTR, you just have a good time.
 

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  • I don't look at women who give it up fast as less of a ltr option. I do look at women with riddiculous "waiting rules" as less of an ltr option.
Thats telling me from the beggining you like to play games. You'll come across women with a "3 month rule" for instance.
Even though I know she probably wont make me wait the whole 3 months, to me its insulting would you make Chris Brown wait 3 months? Would you make Chris Hemsworth wait 3 months? No.
So why the hell should I?

But to answer your question no. The only way it would is if the sex was bad. Otherwise, if you give her a good orgasm it will make her want an ltr more. Regardless of timeframe.
 

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In my opinion, It doesn't matter if you have sex with the girl "too soon" or a month from when you met her because if the guy and girl really like each other (Chemistry), They will want to be together no matter when they have sex. If they have a spark together, More likely than not, Sex will happen soon after they first meet and will want to continue seeing each other until it turns into BF/GF status.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Mike32ct

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I don't think it's much of a problem. Many relationships start out as FWB or casual flings, whether people want to admit it or not. I'm not saying it's an "ideal" situation, but it's common.

The other benefit is that, sometimes, both parties can evaluate each other with a clear head after they've gotten their rocks off. After you've hooked up, the pressure and awkwardness is off for both parties, and you can see if you really like each others' company now.

Finally, in the fiercely competitively environment that we have today, there is some element of risk involved with moving too slowly and waiting too long for sex. While you are the patient guy waiting for her 3-month rule or whatever, she might have a drunk ONS with some random tattooed guy.
 

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I don't think it's much of a problem. Many relationships start out as FWB or casual flings, whether people want to admit it or not. I'm not saying it's an "ideal" situation, but it's common.

The other benefit is that, sometimes, both parties can evaluate each other with a clear head after they've gotten their rocks off. After you've hooked up, the pressure and awkwardness is off for both parties, and you can see if you really like each others' company now.

Finally, in the fiercely competitively environment that we have today, there is some element of risk involved with moving too slowly and waiting too long for sex. While you are the patient guy waiting for her 3-month rule or whatever, she might have a drunk ONS with some random tattooed guy.
I try to tell these dudes, this is how people fall "in love". These FWB's and flings that work their way up to it.
 
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