You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Because I've been dating women all my life and I never met one like last night.MacAvoy said:Exactly MNIN, look how easy that was. Why do you want to lock yourself up with the first pvssy that gives you a sniff? If it was that easy, why wouldn't you want to experience more of that? Don't you like pvssy? Don't you want to bang lots of women? Why are you trying to tie yourself down already?
You should be out there dating multiple women, then if you keep doing things right, one of them will be compatible with you and want to tie you down and go into a LTR. But right now, you don't even know this women, you've only gone on 1 date with her.
For all you know she can be a slvt or a psycho, but yet here you are building her up in your mind putting her on a pedastool.
Do you see what your doing? Have you read the bible? I think you need to reread it.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Maybe you should tell her that then?My Name is Nobody said:Because I've been dating women all my life and I never met one like last night.
Even in high school and college I never got a hottie like her. Maybe once, but she was already divorced and you know how that goes.
That sums it up, just being honest.
If I shagged the coffee girl from this morning I wouldn't even be posting about her.
Yeah maybe I will if I ever talk to her again. The ball is in her court to contact me now.MacAvoy said:Maybe you should tell her that then?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Latinoman said:No doubt...the biggest AFC in sosuave.
When is the last time you banged a 21 yr old hottie? That's right, go crawl back to your thick thighed girlfriend. I could get one of those too.Latinoman said:GREATEST AFC of all time.
Obsessed much?My Name is Nobody said:When is the last time you banged a 21 yr old hottie? That's right, go crawl back to your thick thighed girlfriend. I could get one of those too.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Latinoman said:Afc! Afc! Afc!afc! Afc! Afc!afc! Afc! Afc!afc! Afc! Afc!afc! Afc! Afc!afc! Afc! Afc!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Was that meant to be funny?My Name is Nobody said:I have no idea. If she is interested she will contact me but I'm done contacting her for now. And i've made it pretty clear that I am interested in more from this girl but what do you want me to do call her and leave that info on her voicemail? Maybe I should ask her to marry me, it might work.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.