Does "No Contact" really work?

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BTW Nobody--you've left out the option that she may call you first.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

waiting for Iqqi to chime in she said she's gonna post in a minute..

 

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Cool. Whatever she says I can guarantee that what Mr. Me said and my agreement with him are correct.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

I do not agree that not contacting her at all is a wise decision. I agree that multiple calls and texts if she doesn't respond or if get her v/m is very very bad. Voicemail, dial again. Still voice mail, dial again.... etc.. that would be horrible.

But 1 call or 1 text, and that's IT, cannot be a bad thing in my opinion.

 

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I can see from your OTHER thread that you sent her a text.

Lol. Don't take this the wrong way because I did the EXACT same thing... guys told you what worked for them, but it wasn't what you wanted to hear so you listened to a girl instead becasue you knew she'd tell you what you wanted to hear.

THAT'S NEEDINESS. That's what your'e trying to conquer here. Again, I did the same thing.

Nothing against iqqi AT ALL.... but I'm telling you, chicks can tell you the opposite of what works. They'll tell you to act in ways that are different from what they are used to... they'll tell you not to do what the guys they get together with do.

They tell you the opposite of what has worked on them. And they are extremely well-meaning with their advice.

So hopefully this works out for you though. Just stay confident.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

The problem that you guys are having is that you know that you need to do something but you have no idea what it is. Blathering to her about the sex is the worse AFC thing you can do. Avoiding it is the only thing worse than texting her. What is she, your bowling buddy?

1. Call her voicemail. This doesn't mean call her and hope she doesn't pick up, call directly into her voice mail. If you don't know how, figure it out.
2. Tell her who it is and say that you had fun spending time with her. Don't mention making out, having sex, or any other form of fluid exchange.
3. Say that you'd like to get together again and that you'd call back soon to set a time.
4. Hang up.

Five to ten seconds tops is all it takes. You're being a man and actually CALLING her to show her that she merits something more than a generic text message (using your voice is more genuine). You're in her voicemail so you can focus on the message and not get derailed by the awkwardness of tiptoeing around the sex thing. You do let her know that you had a good time (ie. the sex without being so blatant, you don't want her to feel like a receptacle) such that you'd like to see her again. Finally you keep the ball in your court by telling her that you'll call her soon (a day or two max) to coordinate another get together.

I swear, one day I'm going to start charging you guys. :yawn:

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I can see from your OTHER thread that you sent her a text.

D'OH!!! :kick:

 

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Of course when I mentioned to say he enjoyed the sex, it was a joke.

I guess you can do anything as long as you're confident. Otherwise anything you do will be not-confident.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

How about this for an idea?

I call a different girl and forget about this one for now. This is exactly what I am going to do I got those 10 #'s for a reason.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Of course when I mentioned to say he enjoyed the sex, it was a joke....

He didn't.... Was that before or after the $50?

 

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I swear, one day I'm going to start charging you guys. :yawn:

"$50"<--now I'm just lost.

This thread is insane. I thought if you got laid enough times this confident shyt would just rub off on you.

I'd probably use what you suggested Francisco, it's classy because it's just a message. I don't think it's needy... but asking a hundred people what to do is needy.

Which is just what I do! Lol.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

He didn't.... Was that before or after the $50?

Yeah yeah keep giving me a hard time.. She'll be calling me again trust me.. I'm not stupid, she'll be back.

In the meantime I'm going to use some #'s I got and stop worrying about her. Plus I have another date Tuesday so whatever.

We were fukking last night I busted a nut literally in her face and I am worrying about a text and a call. Give me a break.

 

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Just stop asking chicks for advice. Other than that you'll probably be ok with this one. I want you to succeed because I want me to succeed. :crazy:

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Don't laugh. Guys call David d'Angelo, Neil Strauss, Mystery, et. al. marketers out there just to make a buck, but with there so much of a need for this stuff it's easy money. Don't worry though, I already know that the real money is not providing the service online. Way too many cheap fvckers who will just download the stuff and then gripe about it when they don't execute it correctly. Oh well, just more for my notebook...

 

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Lol. You know I appreciate your advice brother!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Yeah yeah keep giving me a hard time.. She'll be calling me again trust me.. I'm not stupid, she'll be back...

I'm pulling for 'ya but the whole sending her a text is a lot like a guy who was on a business trip and had secured the services of an escort. Though that would have been more like $500 rather than $50 I'd guess.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Lol. You know I appreciate your advice brother!

I know, I know...

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Don't laugh. Guys call David d'Angelo, Neil Strauss, Mystery, et. al. marketers out there just to make a buck, but with there so much of a need for this stuff it's easy money. Don't worry though, I already know that the real money is not providing the service online. Way too many cheap fvckers who will just download the stuff and then gripe about it when they don't execute it correctly. Oh well, just more for my notebook...

I feel like I owe Francisco money for all the help he has given me over the years.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

I'm pulling for 'ya but the whole sending her a text is a lot like a guy who was on a business trip and had secured the services of an escort. Though that would have been more like $500 rather than $50 I'd guess.

Well she was free last night and didn't complain when my nut shot across the bed into her face and hair. I wonder what her parents thought when she went home.

Bottom line is I contacted her and that's it. I feel better for doing it but that's all I'm going to do. An AFC would keep trying to contact her 20 times until she picks up and I'm not going there.

On to the next target.

 

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Keep on movin'!