"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Does "No Contact" really work?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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But 1 call or 1 text, and that's IT, cannot be a bad thing in my opinion.
I can see from your OTHER thread that you sent her a text.
Lol. Don't take this the wrong way because I did the EXACT same thing... guys told you what worked for them, but it wasn't what you wanted to hear so you listened to a girl instead becasue you knew she'd tell you what you wanted to hear.
THAT'S NEEDINESS. That's what your'e trying to conquer here. Again, I did the same thing.
Nothing against iqqi AT ALL.... but I'm telling you, chicks can tell you the opposite of what works. They'll tell you to act in ways that are different from what they are used to... they'll tell you not to do what the guys they get together with do.
They tell you the opposite of what has worked on them. And they are extremely well-meaning with their advice.
So hopefully this works out for you though. Just stay confident.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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- Call her voicemail. This doesn't mean call her and hope she doesn't pick up, call directly into her voice mail. If you don't know how, figure it out.
- Tell her who it is and say that you had fun spending time with her. Don't mention making out, having sex, or any other form of fluid exchange.
- Say that you'd like to get together again and that you'd call back soon to set a time.
- Hang up.
I swear, one day I'm going to start charging you guys. :yawn:
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D'OH!!! :kick:reset said:
I can see from your OTHER thread that you sent her a text.
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I call a different girl and forget about this one for now. This is exactly what I am going to do I got those 10 #'s for a reason.
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He didn't.... Was that before or after the $50?"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Francisco d'Anconia said:
"$50"<--now I'm just lost.
This thread is insane. I thought if you got laid enough times this confident shyt would just rub off on you.
I'd probably use what you suggested Francisco, it's classy because it's just a message. I don't think it's needy... but asking a hundred people what to do is needy.
Which is just what I do! Lol.
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Yeah yeah keep giving me a hard time.. She'll be calling me again trust me.. I'm not stupid, she'll be back.
In the meantime I'm going to use some #'s I got and stop worrying about her. Plus I have another date Tuesday so whatever.
We were fukking last night I busted a nut literally in her face and I am worrying about a text and a call. Give me a break.
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Don't laugh. Guys call David d'Angelo, Neil Strauss, Mystery, et. al. marketers out there just to make a buck, but with there so much of a need for this stuff it's easy money. Don't worry though, I already know that the real money is not providing the service online. Way too many cheap fvckers who will just download the stuff and then gripe about it when they don't execute it correctly.reset said:
Oh well, just more for my notebook..."Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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I'm pulling for 'ya but the whole sending her a text is a lot like a guy who was on a business trip and had secured the services of an escort. Though that would have been more like $500 rather than $50 I'd guess.My Name is Nobody said:
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I know, I know...reset said:
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Francisco d'Anconia said:Don't laugh. Guys call David d'Angelo, Neil Strauss, Mystery, et. al. marketers out there just to make a buck, but with there so much of a need for this stuff it's easy money. Don't worry though, I already know that the real money is not providing the service online. Way too many cheap fvckers who will just download the stuff and then gripe about it when they don't execute it correctly.
I feel like I owe Francisco money for all the help he has given me over the years.
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Well she was free last night and didn't complain when my nut shot across the bed into her face and hair. I wonder what her parents thought when she went home.
Bottom line is I contacted her and that's it. I feel better for doing it but that's all I'm going to do. An AFC would keep trying to contact her 20 times until she picks up and I'm not going there.
On to the next target.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.