"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Edit: Here is a legit response to this post. (I didn't read through it all initially).

Latinoman said:
I read the entire thread. That's how I reached the conclusion that you are the biggest (or one of the biggest) AFCs in this place.
This guy is a d!ck and is probably one of the worst posters on here, but he is right. You are a huge AFC man, and I hate to break it to you.

You have a horrible scarcity mentality, but that isn't even the biggest indicator of your AFCness. This entire thread offers the most proof to me and probably everyone else who has read through it. See, a guy who isn't an AFC would never flip out and post messages analyzing every little interaction and incident he has had with a girl. A DJ just doesn't care. That's often why I don't respond to long analytical threads like these, because I simply do not care and usually anyone who is analyzing a situation through five or six different pages of threads is an AFC and a huge one at that. No situation or interaction with a female deserves that much attention from a guy who is a self-respecting DJ. This whole situation between you and this girl should have been resolved the second she expressed her desire to no longer date you. At that point, you should have agreed and never talked to her again (screw the movies) or you should have LJBFed her if it was still possible. A guy who is not an AFC has too many other options to give a damn about one chic. What is so great about this girl you're freaking out over anyway? She sounds like a BPD. Like I said, you suffer from a scarcity mentality.

Victory Unlimited said:
1. Women who are INTO you, don't CONFUSE you. All the "covert" or "subtle" bullshyt that passes for SOME female behavior spills over into into total CLARITY when they really LIKE you. Why? Because they have NO desire to do anything that may cause them to lose you.
You need to take this advice to heart. This is some of the best advice I have seen given on here in a while.

Don't hang your head over this gaffe you've had with this girl. My advice to you is to go out with all of your guy friends, get hammered and watch a sporting event. That is what I do when I feel down-and-out. It is great for taking your mind off of things.
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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MikeYikes122 said:
^^^I don't know why I posted that. I had no idea this thread had been going on for five pages. ...
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
 
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MikeYikes122 said:
If you were only kind of dating her and she is distancing herself from you, you should maybe LJBF her before she does it to you.

I LJBFed a girl I was semi-dating once and it drove her nuts. Her IL rose from being nearly uninterested to wanting me real bad. She was kind of an AW who was spinning plates and dating multiple guys. I found out about the other dudes and said "fvck it".

I didn't mean for it to have the results it did.

Not bad. I may try this when she attempts to contact me.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
Not bad. I may try this when she attempts to contact me.

Doh!


:kick:


....sigh.
 
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Interceptor said:
Doh!


:kick:


....sigh.

Yeah I was wondering if you guys noticed that... stop being so damn serious.
Yes she dissed me bad but may as well have some fun with it. If I never hear from her again so what? I'm moving on and plan to have a new female soon. Then I can string this one like she did to me.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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As much as I question their effectiveness, this may be a situation which merits an intervention.
 
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I am never contacting her again why are you guys so damn serious? If she chooses to contact me I can have fun with it.. what's the problem?
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
Not bad. I may try this when she attempts to contact me.
Do not do that with her. In fact, forget that I even told you that. That is a bad excuse for you to do things that you shouldn't be doing.

That was an example of PWS (Posting Without Sleep). It's not a term that is in the DJ Dictionary, but it should be, and right underneath the definition should be the fifth page of this thread along with a picture of me smiling.
 
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You know what, forget it. Forget her I am moving on. Let this thread die! Just the fact I am still posting about her means I can't move on completely and forget her so this thread must cease to exist.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
As much as I question their effectiveness, this may be a situation which merits an intervention.
We might have to trick him into thinking it's a documentary about addiction first. Otherwise, I don't think it's going to be work.

Remember, we have to make him feel like he has hit rock bottom.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Just let the thread die PLEASE. How can I get over her completely when I am reading and posting about her? Don't answer that. Thanks for all the advice in here it's time to stop though.
 

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I don't need any flames OK I am just having fun with her now to show you how crazy she is!! Check it out:

I asked for my stuff and she is trying to say everything is my fault and I owe HER an apology for kicking her door and cussing after she threw me out.

She won't tell me WHY she threw me out. It's because she saw pics of her EX and got mad at me!! I told her that and she IGNORED IT!

I was freezing to death and drunk so yeah I beat on her door a few times. Should I apologize for that?

She is NOT even acknowledging or telling me why she threw me out in the first place.

WTF??
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Dude...you are behaving like a drama queen. IF you were a DJ and you had OPTIONS...you would not even be wasting your time with this chick. Having fun = drama queen.

Get your movies and stop 100% communication with her. Focus on somebody new. Unless...you are into the drama queen stuff.

Note: "Having fun" is a BUFFER.
 
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I already admitted I have no other plates right now, I am working on that. I never said I was a DJ nor did I deny I was AFC. I am working on all these things.

Thanks anyway.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
I already admitted I have no other plates right now, I am working on that. I never said I was a DJ nor did I deny I was AFC. I am working on all these things.

Thanks anyway.
A woman that acts without any provocation and throws you out the cold, knowing that you are impaired (drunk) without any regard for your safety is a dangerous woman. The type that next step could be to damage your reputation and potentially your career (sexual harrassment allegations are typically career ending that follows a person from job to job). It is NOT worthy.
 
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You're right. She is trying to turn this all back on me I cant deal with her anymore. Close this thread again please. I need a break from this place. I can never contact her again.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
You're right. She is trying to turn this all back on me I cant deal with her anymore. Close this thread again please. I need a break from this place. I can never contact her again.
If they leave the thread open...some of the members in here could provide some level of support. Sometimes that's all you might need. Some tough love...and some support. Get your head straight.

Good luck man!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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