I was talking to a friend of mine, and he finally got some from this girl he had been digging. He said that he's been hitting it on the regular...but that he's not coming. I was surprised by this because this hasn't been my experience. He was kind of salty about this. Is this a problem? Obviously it's not for her. I always thought that orgasm was a sign of excitement and interest. I wasn't sure how to respond except that he should be glad that he doesn't have PE. I didn't tell him that though. I wasn't sure what to say to him.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Does lack of orgasm = disinterest in a woman?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
MightyMate
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90% woman never had orgasm. That doesnt mean ****.
I got that thing too.
With the girl I dated before my current gf, I was able to have an orgasm 3times in a row, she was the best in bed.
My current gf is not that good, it happens a lot I have to masturbate myself to orgasm, because it just doesn't happen with her (I keep my erection though).
Funny thing is: she got the same thing, I only got her to orgasm once when went on a 10days trip. Most of the time she can't orgasm (and didn't had this problem with other girls before)
The reason for it is that she masturbates a lot when I'm not there, so she is used to her one finger in stead of my tong/finger/****. I already told her to stop it, but she can't hold it anymore after 2days.
Anyway, it has nothing to do with a lack of interest imo, but about:
1. how good are you in bed? Is she doing what needed to make you *** (talk about it!)
2. Stop masturbating!
hope this helps.
With the girl I dated before my current gf, I was able to have an orgasm 3times in a row, she was the best in bed.
My current gf is not that good, it happens a lot I have to masturbate myself to orgasm, because it just doesn't happen with her (I keep my erection though).
Funny thing is: she got the same thing, I only got her to orgasm once when went on a 10days trip. Most of the time she can't orgasm (and didn't had this problem with other girls before)
The reason for it is that she masturbates a lot when I'm not there, so she is used to her one finger in stead of my tong/finger/****. I already told her to stop it, but she can't hold it anymore after 2days.
Anyway, it has nothing to do with a lack of interest imo, but about:
1. how good are you in bed? Is she doing what needed to make you *** (talk about it!)
2. Stop masturbating!
hope this helps.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Uhm.
Lost In Translation
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in my experience from friends who have told me the same story
i reserved my opinion
but looking at their lives and looking at mine and comparing
i think they were :
A. watching too much porn
B. masturbating too much
LIT
i reserved my opinion
but looking at their lives and looking at mine and comparing
i think they were :
A. watching too much porn
B. masturbating too much
LIT
legolas
Master Don Juan
I'm sorry to have to inform you that it DOES have to do with lack of interest. If she is pleasuring herself without you, and gets nothing in your presence, AND you never had this problem before with other girls then it is ALL about her not having much interest in you or not being turned on by you. In this case, neither of you is actually having any sex aside from the masturbating.
legolas
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Having babies!!
Ok let me give you more info.
She is pleasuring herself without me because I'm not there at those moment to pleasure her. We only see each other 3 out of 7days, sleeping together 2 nights out of 7, mostly the weekends.
She gets turned on by me, cause when we have sex she gets wet, gets the flush,... She also masturbates thinking at me.
As a side note, she has slept with ~10guys, and had an orgasm with none of them. I was the first one (only once so far) to make her have an orgasm. Like i said before, this happened when we went for 12days on a holiday, she hadn't the possibility to masturbate back then.
The reasons of her lack of having orgasm is imo:
-too much masturbating
-her feminist side that doesn't want her to orgasm with a guy (be independent, have orgasm without your guy)
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
MightyMate
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Most woman dont get orgasm until getting very old. Orgasm by deep penetation.
Yes.
I think that masturbation should be almost nihil in an relationship.
Having sex is being touched by someone else, if somebody is used to masturbate, he's also used to getting an orgasm by touching himself. This can lead to lack of orgasm when performing the coitus with his/her partner.
well she's almost 27
It was when I performed deep penetration that she came that one time.
But it so much work in the end, you want your pleasure, you have to give her her pleasure, your trying for 45mins all sort of things seeing her all wet, arousing but not getting an orgasm. After a few times you say the hell with it.
If your mind says "don't orgasm" your body won't. I think that's her problem.
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moved to discussion.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.