Does lack of orgasm = disinterest in a woman?

[DonWon]

I was talking to a friend of mine, and he finally got some from this girl he had been digging. He said that he's been hitting it on the regular...but that he's not coming. I was surprised by this because this hasn't been my experience. He was kind of salty about this. Is this a problem? Obviously it's not for her. I always thought that orgasm was a sign of excitement and interest. I wasn't sure how to respond except that he should be glad that he doesn't have PE. I didn't tell him that though. I wasn't sure what to say to him.

 

[MightyMate]

90% woman never had orgasm. That doesnt mean ****.

 

[DonWon]

Sorry I didn't clarify. It was him who didn't orgasm, not her. He said that she's come a few times. He hasn't come once yet with her. I thought that was odd. Sorry for the confusion.

 

[newbie81]

I got that thing too.

With the girl I dated before my current gf, I was able to have an orgasm 3times in a row, she was the best in bed.


My current gf is not that good, it happens a lot I have to masturbate myself to orgasm, because it just doesn't happen with her (I keep my erection though).


Funny thing is: she got the same thing, I only got her to orgasm once when went on a 10days trip. Most of the time she can't orgasm (and didn't had this problem with other girls before)
The reason for it is that she masturbates a lot when I'm not there, so she is used to her one finger in stead of my tong/finger/****. I already told her to stop it, but she can't hold it anymore after 2days.


Anyway, it has nothing to do with a lack of interest imo, but about:
1. how good are you in bed? Is she doing what needed to make you *** (talk about it!)
2. Stop masturbating!


hope this helps.

 

[newbie81]

Originally posted by swampwiz
She could have a loose vagina. This does not necessarily mean that she is a stretched out 'ho.

Can you give me more info about that "loose vagina" syndrom?


Where can this come from except from a lot of sex?


tnx

 

[MightyMate]

Uhm.

 

[Lost In Translation]

in my experience from friends who have told me the same story

i reserved my opinion

but looking at their lives and looking at mine and comparing

i think they were :

A. watching too much porn

B. masturbating too much


LIT

 

[legolas]

Originally posted by newbie81
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Funny thing is: she got the same thing, I only got her to orgasm once when went on a 10days trip. Most of the time she can't orgasm (and didn't had this problem with other girls before)
The reason for it is that she masturbates a lot when I'm not there, so she is used to her one finger in stead of my tong/finger/****. I already told her to stop it, but she can't hold it anymore after 2days.


Anyway, it has nothing to do with a lack of interest imo,

I'm sorry to have to inform you that it DOES have to do with lack of interest. If she is pleasuring herself without you, and gets nothing in your presence, AND you never had this problem before with other girls then it is ALL about her not having much interest in you or not being turned on by you. In this case, neither of you is actually having any sex aside from the masturbating.

 

[legolas]

Originally posted by newbie81
Can you give me more info about that "loose vagina" syndrom?


Where can this come from except from a lot of sex?


tnx

Having babies!!

 

[newbie81]

Originally posted by legolas
I'm sorry to have to inform you that it DOES have to do with lack of interest. If she is pleasuring herself without you, and gets nothing in your presence, AND you never had this problem before with other girls then it is ALL about her not having much interest in you or not being turned on by you. In this case, neither of you is actually having any sex aside from the masturbating.

Ok let me give you more info.

She is pleasuring herself without me because I'm not there at those moment to pleasure her. We only see each other 3 out of 7days, sleeping together 2 nights out of 7, mostly the weekends.

She gets turned on by me, cause when we have sex she gets wet, gets the flush,... She also masturbates thinking at me.

As a side note, she has slept with ~10guys, and had an orgasm with none of them. I was the first one (only once so far) to make her have an orgasm. Like i said before, this happened when we went for 12days on a holiday, she hadn't the possibility to masturbate back then.

The reasons of her lack of having orgasm is imo:
-too much masturbating
-her feminist side that doesn't want her to orgasm with a guy (be independent, have orgasm without your guy)

 

[MightyMate]

Most woman dont get orgasm until getting very old. Orgasm by deep penetation.

 

[DonWon]

Just so all the posters are clear, the person that isn't getting the orgasm is the guy....not the girl. Wasn't sure if this was clear or not. Are we saying that excessive masturbation works both ways for both sexes?

 

[newbie81]

Originally posted by DonWon
Just so all the posters are clear, the person that isn't getting the orgasm is the guy....not the girl. Wasn't sure if this was clear or not. Are we saying that excessive masturbation works both ways for both sexes?

Yes.

I think that masturbation should be almost nihil in an relationship.

Having sex is being touched by someone else, if somebody is used to masturbate, he's also used to getting an orgasm by touching himself. This can lead to lack of orgasm when performing the coitus with his/her partner.

 

[newbie81]

Originally posted by MightyMate
Most woman dont get orgasm until getting very old. Orgasm by deep penetation.

well she's almost 27

It was when I performed deep penetration that she came that one time.

But it so much work in the end, you want your pleasure, you have to give her her pleasure, your trying for 45mins all sort of things seeing her all wet, arousing but not getting an orgasm. After a few times you say the hell with it.

If your mind says "don't orgasm" your body won't. I think that's her problem.

 

[Cesare Cardinali]

moved to discussion.