"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Does being persistent actually turn them off (HB9s and above)?

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I think they are probably fed up with guys chasing them for too long. To them, It's just desperation IMO. Not that much different.


Thoughts?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Paradox of SS:

To get women you have to use game and approach. But to get women you have to act indifferent and like you don't give a fug
 

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skinnyguy said:
Paradox of SS:

To get women you have to use game and approach. But to get women you have to act indifferent and like you don't give a fug
Not really.

If the girl finds you attractive then you have(or can) to use game and approach while acting indifferent etc. to maintain interest and all that.. If you do it on a girl that doesn't even find you attractive then you're boned.
 

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Define persistent?
Persistence at all stages. Approaching, arranging the first date and finally, escalation.


For example you approach a HB9 and she completely ignores your existence. Or hell, some of them even scream at you, which I shrug it off with giggling or asking her to stop crying. Do you look like a fool if you keep talking to her?
 

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Well then I have to lower my standards personally. Probably down to HB4-5s. I thought being a tad stubborn during the approach would be OK. Should I give up chasing the hot ones? This is how I look, sort of :
http://www.spainisculture.com/export/sites/cultura/multimedia/galerias/autores/antonio_banderas_elmundo.jpg


However I'm really short, around 170cm. Also my voice and speakings sounds whiny and weird, IE I feel a little stuck sometimes not knowing what to say.

This is how I answererd when a girl told me she had a BF:
HB8.5: I have a BF. He wouldn't be happy seeing us chatting.
Me: Oh poor girl. Only one BF? You should have 2 at least, increase your options.
HB8.5::eek:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Don't be fooled, they love it. The more orbiters and persistent chumps they have blowin up their phone, the happier they feel. Even if it's for a few short minutes. The more they feel like popular Hollywood starlets the better. What else do you think a girl does the bulk of her waking hours?? Calculating structural strengths of bridges on her new iPhone??
 

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VladPatton said:
Don't be fooled, they love it. The more orbiters and persistent chumps they have blowin up their phone, the happier they feel. Even if it's for a few short minutes.
Oh, I'm sure they love it. I'm sure it makes them feel happy and validated. The question should be does it make them feel attraction?

Anyway, I agree with Espi, that article that he linked to is a good one.
 

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zekko said:
The question should be does it make them feel attraction?
They could develop feelings in the long run
 
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