"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Does being persistent actually turn them off (HB9s and above)?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Not really.skinnyguy said:
If the girl finds you attractive then you have(or can) to use game and approach while acting indifferent etc. to maintain interest and all that.. If you do it on a girl that doesn't even find you attractive then you're boned.
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Persistence at all stages. Approaching, arranging the first date and finally, escalation.
For example you approach a HB9 and she completely ignores your existence. Or hell, some of them even scream at you, which I shrug it off with giggling or asking her to stop crying. Do you look like a fool if you keep talking to her?
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However I'm really short, around 170cm. Also my voice and speakings sounds whiny and weird, IE I feel a little stuck sometimes not knowing what to say.
This is how I answererd when a girl told me she had a BF:
HB8.5: I have a BF. He wouldn't be happy seeing us chatting.
Me: Oh poor girl. Only one BF? You should have 2 at least, increase your options.
HB8.5:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Oh, I'm sure they love it. I'm sure it makes them feel happy and validated. The question should be does it make them feel attraction?VladPatton said:
Anyway, I agree with Espi, that article that he linked to is a good one.