Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
ROFL Kev07. Seriously OP this topic is ridiculous. Think of it this way if you were to simply click add and she accepted you then you could check her page to see if she has a boyfriend or not. Why the **** are you such a ***** to simply click add. So many people add random people anyway and most people simply add them back. If not simply send a message and see if you get accpeted.Kev07 said:Yeah, every single private female myspace is dark water for you. There will most definetely be a boyfriend involved, he will be big muscular and has 6 guns. The moment you try to add her, he will come and shoot you with all 6 guns.
Lesson of the day: Don't bother with girls with private myspaces, even if you have met them IRL
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
As an alternative, pretend you are the boss and critique your own site from their viewpoint, changing anything that doesn't agree. Quite frankly, if it would embarress the company, chances are its embarressing to everyone else too. A personal site can be done in good taste and not be inherently embarressing to anyone. For example, why have a myspace site where you look like a punk. Businesses don't want that image because no one wants to be associated with punks anyway; including women.Effington said:I would strongly recommend anyone who has a career to set their myspace, facebook profiles to private. It's becoming a more common practice for employers to search their employee and potential employees on these sites to see if they can get insight on who they're dealing with, I know the company I work for does.
Seeing you in pictures at bars every weekend or doing dumb stuff is not the impression you want to give these people.